Koj puas xav nyeem koj tus kws kho mob cov lus sau tseg?

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Yog tias koj tau mus ntsib kws kho mob, tej zaum koj yuav tau ntsib lub sijhawm no: Koj nchuav koj lub siab tawm, ua tib zoo tos tos cov lus teb, thiab koj tus kws kho mob zoo li sau-sau rau hauv phau ntawv lossis tapping ntawm lub iPad.

Koj tab tom nyam: "Nws sau dab tsi?!"

Txog 700 tus neeg mob ntawm Boston's Beth Israel Deaconess Tsev Kho Mob-ib feem ntawm kev kawm ua ntej hauv tsev kho mob-tsis tas yuav txhawj txog lub sijhawm ntawd. Lawv muaj kev nkag tau mus rau lawv tus kws kho mob cov ntawv, txawm tias yog lub sijhawm teem tseg lossis tom qab dhau los ntawm cov ntaub ntawv online, raws li tau hais los New York Times tsab xov xwm

Thiab thaum qhov no yuav zoo li yog lub tswv yim tshiab, Stephen F. O'Neill, LICSW, JD, tus thawj coj saib xyuas kev noj qab haus huv rau kev puas siab puas ntsws thiab kev saib xyuas thawj zaug ntawm Beth Israel tau yaum nws tsis yog: "Kuv ib txwm muaj txoj cai qhib kev ceeb toom. Cov neeg mob muaj txoj cai rau lawv cov ntaub ntawv, thiab peb coob leej nyob ntawm no [ntawm Beth Israel] tau xyaum qhov no kom pom tseeb. "

Yog lawm: Nkag mus rau koj tus kws kho mob cov ntawv yog koj txoj cai (ceeb toom: kev cai lij choj sib txawv hauv ib lub xeev thiab yog tias nws yuav ua teeb meem rau koj rau ib qho laj thawj twg, tus kws kho mob tau tso cai muab cov ntsiab lus). Tab sis coob leej tsis nug lawv. Thiab ntau tus kws kho mob txaj muag los ntawm kev sib qhia. "Hmoov tsis zoo, feem ntau cov kws kho mob tau raug cob qhia los ua kev tiv thaiv," O'Neill hais. "Nyob hauv tsev kawm ntawv tiav ib tug xib fwb hais tias, 'Muaj ob hom kws kho mob: ib tug raug foob thiab ib tug tsis tau."

Khiav kev pheej hmoo ntawm kev ua txhaum lossis ua rau tus neeg mob tsis meej pem los ntawm kev xa koj phau ntawv sau, ces? Qhov ntawd yog arguably pheej hmoo ua lag luam. Thiab O'Neill lees paub tias kev paub koj nyob ntawm qhov tau txais qhov kawg ntawm nws daim ntawv hloov pauv txoj kev nws sau (kev hloov pauv feem ntau tuaj hauv daim ntawv kom ntseeg tau tias koj yuav nkag siab nws cov lus, nws hais). Tab sis xyaum hais lus, cov txiaj ntsig ntau dua qhov txaus ntshai, nws hais tias: "Yog tias peb xa xov xwm tsis zoo, peb cia siab tias cov neeg mob yuav tsis nco ntau dua 30 feem pua ​​ntawm qhov peb hais. Nrog xov xwm zoo, peb cia siab tias lawv yuav nco qab 70 feem pua. Yog koj tsis muaj cov ntaub ntawv. Yog tias cov neeg mob tuaj yeem rov qab thiab nco qab, qhov ntawd pab tau. "

Qhov tseeb, nkag mus rau cov ntawv txiav cov xov tooj tsis tsim nyog los ntawm cov neeg nrhiav kev pom meej ntawm kev sib tham, txo qis kev nyuaj siab ntawm tag nrho cov kab ke. Thiab ib qho kev tshawb fawb tsis ntev los no hauv lub Annals ntawm Internal Tshuaj pom tias cov neeg uas pom lawv cov ntawv sau ntawv tau txaus siab rau lawv txoj kev saib xyuas thiab feem ntau yuav lo rau lawv cov tshuaj.

Rau ntau tus, ceeb toom sib qhia tsuas yog ib qho cuab yeej ntxiv los tsim kev sib raug zoo ntawm tus neeg mob-kws kho mob. Thaum pib txhawj xeeb tias qhov kev coj ua tuaj yeem ua rau cov neeg mob paranoid khiav (tom qab tag nrho, yog tias lawv xav tias nws tau sau tej yam tsis zoo txog lawv li cas?), O'Neill pom qhov txawv: Paub tias (txhua lub sijhawm) tus neeg mob tuaj yeem pom nws li cas. tau sau cov theem kev ntseeg siab, ua kom muaj kev thaj yeeb nyab xeeb.

Tab sis cov txheej txheem tsis yog ib qho me me haum rau txhua qhov-thiab tam sim no, tsuas yog ob peb lwm yam kev kho mob thoob plaws lub tebchaws tau tsim los qhib cov ntawv sau los ntawm cov kws kho mob rau cov neeg mob. "Ib feem ntawm peb txoj haujlwm yog los xyuas seb leej twg yog qhov no yuav ua haujlwm zoo rau thiab leej twg yog qhov no yuav muaj kev pheej hmoo rau." Thiab kev tawm tsam yog ntuj tsim. Yog tias tus kws kho mob sau qhov kev txhais ntawm qhov lawv xav tias mus nrog lwm tus neeg, piv txwv li, thiab xav kom tus neeg mob ua qhov kev tshawb pom ntawd hauv nws tus kheej lub sijhawm, pom cov ntawv ceeb toom ua ntej tuaj yeem cuam tshuam kev kho mob ntws, O'Neill piav qhia.

Thiab nrog lub peev xwm pom cov ntawv sau hauv tsev los ntawm qhov tseeb tias koj yeej tsis paub leej twg nyeem ntawv hla tus neeg mob lub xub pwg. Thaum muaj kev kub ntxhov hauv tsev lossis teeb meem, muaj tus tsim txom lossis tus txij nkawm tsis xav txog qhov yuam kev thaum sau ntawv tuaj yeem muaj teeb meem. (Nco tseg: Muaj kev tiv thaiv los tiv thaiv qhov no tshwm sim, O'Neill hais.)

Cov kab hauv qab: Koj yuav tsum paub koj tus kheej. Koj puas yuav obsess dhau cov lus nug xws li, "Cov lus ntawd txhais li cas?" lossis, "Puas yog qhov nws xav tau tiag tiag?" Ntawm Beth Israel, kwv yees li ib feem peb ntawm cov neeg mob uas tau muaj lub sijhawm los xaiv rau txoj haujlwm tau ua li ntawd. Tab sis ntau lwm tus tsis xav ua. Raws li O'Neill rov hais dua, "Ib tus neeg mob hais tias, 'Nws zoo li txhuam koj lub tsheb mus rau kws kho tsheb-thaum nws ua tiav, kuv tsis tas yuav saib hauv qab lub hood.'"

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