Tus Pib Qhia Cov Lus Qhia Rau Surrogate Partner Therapy

Zoo Siab

• Dab tsi yog nws?
• Leej twg yuav tau txais txiaj ntsig?
• Nws ua haujlwm li cas?
• Nov puas yog tib yam li kev kho poj niam txiv neej?
• Cov neeg sib deev puas yog poj niam txiv neej pw?
• Koj yuav ua li cas thiaj txuas nrog surrogate?
• Puas raug cai?
• Ib tug neeg ua ib tus khub surrogate li cas?
• Hauv qab kab

Peb suav nrog cov khoom uas peb xav tias tseem ceeb rau peb cov nyeem. Yog tias koj yuav los ntawm cov txuas hauv nplooj ntawv no, peb yuav khwv tau nyiaj me me. Ntawm no yog peb cov txheej txheem.

Koj paub tias kev sib deev yog dab tsi, thiab koj yuav tau hnov ​​ntawm lo lus "surrogate," tsawg kawg yog hais txog menyuam mos thiab plab. Tab sis yog tias slamming ob lo lus ua ke koj nyiam "???" koj tsis yog ib leeg.

Feem coob ntawm cov neeg tsis paub dab tsi pw surrogates yog.

Thiab feem ntau cov uas xav tias lawv muaj nws txoj kev tsis ncaj ncees lawm, raws li Jenni Skyler, PhD, LMFT, thiab AASECT cov kws kho mob pw ua ke, tus paub txog poj niam txiv neej, thiab cov ntawv tso cai sib yuav thiab tus kws kho tsev neeg rau AdamEve.com.

"Nws tsis yog qhov ntxim hlub tshaj plaws uas cov neeg feem coob xav tias nws yog."

Yog vim li cas thiaj tau raug thawb los pib hu kev pw ua niam txiv "surrogate tus khub txoj kev kho" hloov, hais tias Mark Shattuck, tus kws tshaj lij neeg sawv cev lossis tus thawj coj xov xwm nrog International Professional Surrogate Association (IPSA).

Rau cov ntsiab lus teb, IPSA tau raug lees paub tias yog tus thawj coj hauv kev tiv thaiv kev pw ua ke thiab surrogate tus khub txoj kev kho txij li xyoo 1973.

Dab tsi yog nws?

Surrogate tus khub txoj kev kho, raws li txhais los ntawm IPSA, yog peb-txoj kev kho kev sib raug zoo ntawm tus kws kho mob uas muaj ntawv pov thawj, tus neeg siv khoom, thiab tus khub surrogate.

Nws tau tsim los pab cov neeg siv tau yooj yim nrog kev sib raug zoo, kev ntxim nyiam, kev sib deev thiab kev sib deev, thiab lawv lub cev.

Thaum no kev sib raug zoo tuaj yeem txhim kho nrog ib hom ntawv tso cai kws kho mob, Shattuck hais tias feem ntau nrog tus kws kho mob pw ua niam txiv.

Nws hais ntxiv tias cov kws kho kev sib daj sib deev yuav qhib rau kev ua hauj lwm surrogacy ntau dua li cov neeg kho mob ib txwm muaj.

Yog li, dab tsi yog tus khub surrogate, raws nraim?

"Ib tus kws tshaj lij uas siv kov, ua pa, nco qab zoo, ua kom ib ce so, thiab kawm paub txog kev sib raug zoo los pab cov neeg siv kom tau raws li lawv cov hom phiaj kho," piav qhia Shattuck.

Qee zaum - nws hais hauv nws qhov kev paub nws txog kwv yees li 15 txog 20 feem pua ​​ntawm lub sijhawm - tus khub surrogacy suav nrog kev sib deev. Nws tau hais tias "Tab sis txhua yam nyob ntawm qhov teeb meem uas tus neeg tau txais kev pab ua tau los ntawm," nws hais.

Lub hom phiaj ntawm tag nrho cov no? Txhawm rau muab tus neeg siv lub chaw nyab xeeb los tshawb txog thiab xyaum kev sib raug zoo thiab kev sib deev hauv qhov chaw kawm.

Cov lus tseem ceeb: Tsis muaj dab tsi yog tus kws kho mob saib lossis ncaj qha cuam tshuam nrog dab tsi tshwm sim ntawm tus khub surrogate thiab tus neeg thov.

"Ib tug neeg ntsib nrog lawv tus khub surrogate nyias muaj nyias," piav qhia Shattuck. Tab sis ib tus neeg muab rau lawv cov kws kho mob thiab tus khub surrogate lub teeb ntsuab los tham nrog lwm tus txog lawv kev nce qib.

Nws hais tias "Tus kws kho mob, tus thov kev pab, thiab tus khub surrogate sib txuas lus zoo thiab feem ntau yog ib qho tseem ceeb rau kev ua tiav rau tus neeg saib xyuas leej twg," nws hais.

Leej twg yuav tau txais txiaj ntsig?

Koj yeej tsis tuaj yeem nkag nrog tus khub surrogate yam tsis tau muaj tus kws kho mob uas muaj ntawv pov thawj, raws li Shattuck.

Yog li feem ntau, nws hais tias, "ib tug neeg uas pib ua haujlwm nrog tus khub surrogate twb tau nyob hauv kev kho mob pw ua ke tau ob peb lub hlis lossis ob peb xyoos thiab tseem muaj haujlwm ntau rau ua nyob ib puag ncig zoo siab nrog kev sib deev, kev sib raug zoo, sib tham, thiab lawv lub cev. . ”

Cov teeb meem uas yuav ua rau cov neeg mob xav qhia lawv sib koom nrog ib tus khub surrogate rau lawv txoj kev kho kom zoo - lossis rau tus kws kho pw ua niam txiv tau tawm tswv yim tib yam rau tus neeg siv - ntau yam los ntawm kev txhawj xeeb dav dav rau cov kev ua niam txiv lossis kev ntshai.

Qee tus neeg uas tuaj yeem tau txais txiaj ntsig los ntawm kev kho neeg lub zog ntawm tus khub surrogacy muaj xws li:

• kev raug mob thiab kev tsim txom cov neeg muaj txoj sia
• cov neeg tsis muaj kev sib deev lossis paub tab
• noov-tswv nrog erectile kawg los yog ejaculation thaum ntxov
• Qhov chaw mos-tswv cuab nrog vaginismus, lossis lwm yam kev mob hauv lub plab hu ua uas ua rau kev sib deev yooj yim
• cov neeg uas tawm tsam nrog kev lees paub lub cev lossis lub cev dysmorphia
• cov neeg uas muaj kev ntxhov siab lossis ntshai tshwj xeeb nyob ib puag ncig kev sib deev, kev sib hlub, thiab kov
• cov neeg muaj mob xiam oob qhab uas ua rau nws muaj qhov nyuaj rau muaj kev sib deev

Hmoov tsis zoo, vim tias feem ntau txoj cai pov hwm tsis them cov kev pab kho khub niam txiv surrogacy (lossis kho kev sib deev, rau qhov xwm txheej ntawd), ntau tus neeg uas tuaj yeem tau txais txiaj ntsig los ntawm txoj kev kho kom zoo no tsis tuaj yeem them taus.

Ib qho kev sib kho feem ntau tus nqi $ 200 txog $ 400 tawm hauv hnab tshos.

Nws ua haujlwm li cas?

Thaum koj thiab koj tus kws kho mob txiav txim siab surrogate tus khub txoj kev kho yuav tuaj yeem pab tau koj, koj tus kws kho mob pw ua niam txiv yuav ncav tes mus rau lawv cov pab pawg ntawm cov neeg koom nrog pab kom koj pom muaj qhov ntxim.

Lawv kuj tseem tuaj yeem hu tau rau IPSA Cov Kws Pab Qhia Ntawv xa mus nrhiav kev pab nrhiav tus neeg muaj lub siab hlub, tau txais kev kawm zoo, tau txais ntawv tso cai ua tus sawv cev uas yuav pab tau koj zoo tshaj plaws.

Shattuck hu tawm tias tam sim no ntau tus khub surrogates muaj online thiab social media platform, yog li yog tias koj ntog ntawm tus khub surrogate koj xav tias yuav yog qhov zoo haum rau koj, coj nws nrog koj tus kws kho mob pw ua ke.

Tab sis tiag tiag ua hauj lwm nrog tus khub tshwj xeeb surrogate, koj ob leeg pw ua ke thiab tus khub surrogate yuav tau kos npe tawm.

Los ntawm qhov ntawd, "tus thov kev pab thiab tus khub surrogate yuav ntsib los txiav txim seb nws puas yog qhov zoo haum," hais tias Shattuck.

Thawj lub rooj sib tham tshwm sim hauv tus kws kho mob pw chaw ua haujlwm, tab sis txhua qhov kev sib tham tom qab tau tshwm sim lwm qhov - feem ntau hauv chav kws kho mob, lossis tsev neeg lub tsev.

Ib tug "zoo haum" tsis tau txiav txim siab los ntawm tej yam uas zoo li cas nyiam koj rau surrogate, tab sis, theej los ntawm kev xav zoo li koj tuaj yeem (lossis thaum kawg tuaj yeem ntseeg) lawv.

Feem ntau, tus khub surrogate thiab pw ua niam txiv tus kws kho ua haujlwm ua ke kom tuaj nrog kho phiaj xwm raws li koj lub hom phiaj. Tom qab ntawv, koj thiab koj tus khub surrogate yuav ua haujlwm ua ke mus rau lub hom phiaj ntawd.

Yam uas txoj kev npaj khomob yuav suav nrog:

• ua qhov muag kom pom tseeb
• kev xav
• tig tau ua kom pom tseeb
• kev ua pa tawm
• daim phiaj chaw lub cev
• ib seem lossis ob leeg ib leeg liab qab
• ib- los sis ob-txoj kev kov (saum toj los sis qis dua khaub ncaws)
• Kev sib deev (coj los ntawm kev sib deev muaj kev nyab xeeb)

“Tsis yog ib txwm muaj, lossis tseem muaj feem ntau, kev sib tham ntawm tus khub surrogate thiab tus neeg siv khoom, tab sis thaum muaj, peb tsom rau kev tsim lub hauv paus ruaj khov ua ntej, ”Shattuck hais.

Surrogate tus khub txoj kev kho yog tsis ib-thiab-ua tus tshaj plaws.

"Peb ua haujlwm ua ke ib zaug ib lub lim tiam lossis kom txog thaum tus neeg tau txais tiav lawv lub hom phiaj. Qee lub sijhawm yuav siv ntau lub hlis, qee zaum yuav siv sijhawm ntev xyoo, "nws hais.

"Ib zaug tus neeg tau mus txog lawv cov hom phiaj, peb muaj ob peb txoj haujlwm kaw thiab tom qab ntawd xa lawv tawm mus rau hauv lub ntiaj teb tiag!"

Nov puas yog tib yam li kev kho poj niam txiv neej?

Nyob ntawd yuav ua ib co sib tshooj, tab sis surrogate tus khub txoj kev kho yog tsis deev kev kho mob.

Skyler hais tias, "Lawv yog cov liaj teb txawv."

Nws hais tias "Kev kho kev sib deev yog ib hom kev kho mob uas pab ib tus neeg lossis ob peb lub tswv yim tsim kev tsis zoo thiab kev paub dhau los txhawm rau pab lawv ua kom zoo rau kev sib deev thiab kev sib raug zoo,"

Thaum cov neeg yuav qee zaum muaj haujlwm ua hauv tsev - piv txwv, masturbating, saib duab liab qab, lossis ua daim ntawv Tau Yog, Tsis Yog, Tej zaum sau npe - pw ua niam txiv yog kev kho mob sib tham.

Skyler hais tias "Tsis muaj kev sib tham ntawm kev sib deev ntawm tus kws kho kev sib deev thiab tus neeg thov kev pab."

Surrogate tus khub txoj kev kho yog thaum tus kws kho pw ua ke hu rau lwm tus kws tshaj lij-ib tus kws tshaj lij nrog tus kws saib xyuas mob - kom cev nqaij daim tawv, sib deev lossis sib deev nrog lawv cov neeg siv khoom. sab nraud ntawm kev sib deev kev kho zaug.

Cov neeg sib deev puas yog poj niam txiv neej pw?

Shattuck hais tias "Thaum peb txhawb nqa cov poj niam txiv neej pw, peb tsis xav txog peb tus kheej deev cov poj niam." "Peb xav txog peb tus kheej adjunct therapists thiab healers."

Qee lub sij hawm muaj qhov ntxim nyiam thiab kev sib deev muaj feem cuam tshuam nrog kev pw ua ke, tab sis lub hom phiaj tau zoo lawm - tsis tas yuav tsum muaj kev sib daj sib deev lossis kev txaus siab.

Qhov ua piv txwv no, losntawm ntawm tus khub surrogate Cheryl Cohen Greene, tuaj yeem pab:

Mus nrog txiv neej pw ces zoo li mus rau hauv lub tsev noj mov nkauj. Koj xaiv qhov koj xav noj los ntawm daim ntawv qhia zaub mov, thiab yog tias koj nyiam koj noj dab tsi, koj yuav rov qab los dua.

Ua haujlwm nrog tus khub ntsej muag yog zoo li kawm chav ua noj. Koj mus, koj kawm, thiab tom qab ntawd koj nqa qhov koj kawm thiab koj mus tsev thiab ua mov noj rau lwm tus…

Koj yuav ua li cas thiaj txuas nrog surrogate?

Feem ntau, koj tus kws kho poj niam pw ua ke yuav ua qhov qhia txog. Tab sis koj tuaj yeem siv IPSA Surrogate Locator los nrhiav tus khub surrogate hauv koj thaj chaw.

Puas raug cai?

Cov nqe lus nug zoo. Hauv feem ntau ntawm Tebchaws Asmeskas, them nyiaj deev yog tsis raug cai. Tab sis tus khub surrogacy tsis yog qhov tseeb - los yog tsawg kawg tsis yeej ib txwm synonymous - nrog them nyiaj rau kev pw ua ke.

Shattuck hais tias, "Tsis muaj kev cai lij choj txwv tsis pub ua qhov no." "Tab sis kuj tsis muaj ib tsab cai lij choj uas sau tseg tias zoo lawm."

Hauv lwm lo lus, tus khub surrogacy ntog hauv qhov chaw raug cai grey.

Tab sis, raws li Shattuck hais tias, IPSA tau muaj plaub caug xyoo los lawm thiab tsis tau foob dua ib zaug li.

Ib tug neeg ua ib tus khub surrogate li cas?

Skylar hais tias, "Kev yuam deev pw ua niam txiv muaj lub luag haujlwm tseem ceeb rau tus neeg siv uas xav tau lawv, tab sis lawv tsis tas yuav muaj kev kawm lossis kev kho mob hauv kev puas hlwb," Skylar hais.

Puas yog txhais tau tias ib tug neeg dhau los ua tus khub surrogate? Tsis yog.

Nws hais tias "Cov neeg ua haujlwm cev xeeb tub yuav tsum tau dhau los ntawm ib qho kev pabcuam ncaj ncees thiab kev lees paub lub cev, zoo li IPSA," nws hais.

Raws li Shattuck (uas, rov hais dua, yog IPSA muaj ntawv pov thawj), kev ua tus sawv cev nrog lwm tus yog tus txheej txheem sib koom tes ncaj ncees.

"Nws muaj kev kawm haujlwm ntau lub lim tiam, tom qab ntawd muaj kev xyaum ua haujlwm uas koj ua haujlwm nyob rau hauv ib tus neeg saib xyuas tshwj xeeb, thiab yog tias / thaum koj pom tau tias npaj yuav tawm ntawm koj tus kheej uas yog tus khub pom zoo rau koj tus kheej, koj ua."

IPSA hu tawm tias kev nplij siab nrog ib tus neeg lub cev thiab kev sib daj sib deev, sov siab, muaj kev hlub tshua, kev paub siab, txawj ntse, thiab tsis muaj kev xav rau lwm tus txoj kev xaiv kev ua neej, kev pom zoo kev sib deev, thiab kev nyiam sib deev yog txhua qhov yuav tsum tau ua los ua ib tus tswv cuab nrog lwm tus.

Hauv qab kab

Rau cov neeg uas kev sib daj sib deev, kev sib deev, lawv lub cev thiab kov yog qhov ua kom muaj kev ntxhov siab, ntshai, ntxhov siab, lossis txhawj xeeb, ua haujlwm nrog pab pawg nrog (kws kho mob) tus kws kho mob thiab tus khub nrog lwm tus tuaj yeem tuaj yeem kho tau zoo.

Gabrielle Kassel yog New York-based kev sib deev thiab kev noj qab haus huv thiab tus kws qhia qib CrossFit Level 1. Nws tau dhau los ua tus sawv ntxov, kuaj dua 200 vibrators, thiab noj mov, qaug dej, thiab txhuam nrog hluav ncaig - tag nrho ntawm kev sau xov xwm. Hauv nws lub sijhawm pub dawb, nws tuaj yeem pom nyeem cov phau ntawv pab tus kheej thiab nyiam cov dab neeg tshiab, lub rooj ntev zaum-nias, lossis dhia seev cev. Ua raws li nws ntawm Instagram.