1 ntawm 5 ntawm Koj Cov Phooj Ywg Tau Txais Kinky - Puas Koj Yuav Tsum Tau?

Zoo Siab

• Cia rov qab tuav ib pliag: Dab tsi tsim nyog zoo li kink?
• Kinky nrog txiv neej pw yuav muaj txiaj ntsig hauv qee txoj kev xav tsis thoob
• Nkag siab txog poj niam txiv neej kev ntseeg kev tsis txaus ntseeg, cov lus tso tawm thiab cov dab neeg
• Poj niam nyiam kink, ib yam nkaus
• Koj tsis yog "vwm" sim sim BDSM
• Koj tsis tas yuav siv ntau cov khoom siv zoo nkauj
• Ua kom chav pw ua si lom zem thiab nyab xeeb
• Txhua yam pib nrog kev pom zoo
• Cov lus nyab xeeb tsis muaj lus tso dag
• Xav txog (thiab tham txog) koj "nyuaj txwv"
• Nco ntsoov tias qhov mob siab yooj yim - thiab tsis muaj kev phom sij
• Kev saib xyuas me nyuam tseem yog ib qho tseem ceeb
• Nco ntsoov: Kinky sex yog qhov koj xav tau nws

Ib nrab ntawm cov pej xeem yog xav nrog kink

Muab cov ntsiab lus tshaj plaws ntawm koj lub neej kev ua niam txiv yog tseem taboo tsis tau zoo. Tab sis yog tias koj tsis tuaj yeem tham txog nws nrog koj cov phooj ywg ze tshaj plaws, puas coj nws tawm hauv chav pw mus yuav yooj yim dua?

Yog tias nws tsis yog rau cov duab liab qab erotica thiab softcore pornography (nyob zoo, "Tsib caug Ntxoov Grey"), tej zaum koj yuav tsis paub ntau txog kev sim nrog cov ciaj ciam hauv chav pw. Thiab yog tias nws tsis yog rau cov kev tshawb fawb tsis qhia npe, peb yuav tsis paub tsuas yog pes tsawg tus neeg Asmeskas tau sim - thiab nyiam - ntaus thiab khi sib sib nraus.

Qhov tseeb yog tias tsawg kawg ntawm koj cov phooj ywg tau sim nws - thiab ib qho ntawm tsib tus ua nws ib feem ntawm lawv cov kev ua si tsis tu ncua hauv chav pw. Raws li cov, ntau dua 22 feem pua ​​ntawm cov neeg laus sib deev tau koom nrog ua si, thaum ntau dua 20 feem pua ​​tau koom nrog khi thiab ntaus.

Kab tias ntau ceeb? Lwm qhov kev tshawb fawb pom tias yuav luag ib nrab ntawm 1,040 tus neeg tshawb fawb tau nyiam kink, txawm tias lawv tsis muaj sijhawm los tshawb txog nws. Thiab muaj kev tshawb nrhiav zuj zus hais tias kev tawm tsam hauv chav pw tuaj yeem muaj txiaj ntsig ntau, rau koj txoj kev noj qab haus huv thiab kev sib raug zoo.

Cia rov qab tuav ib pliag: Dab tsi tsim nyog zoo li kink?

Thaum lo lus kink tsis muaj kev kho mob lossis txhais cov ntsiab lus, nws ib txwm muaj kev sib deev uas tsis koom nrog cov lus sib tham - feem ntau suav tias yog kev nyiam kov, sib tham sib deev, sib hnia, nkag mus hauv qhov chaw, ua kom lub siab, thiab qhov ncauj deev. "Kink" nws tus kheej hais txog txhua yam uas khoov ntawm "ncaj thiab nqaim," txawm hais tias muaj ob peb pawg uas feem ntau vau rau hauv lub kaus kinky nrog txiv neej pw:

• BDSM. Thaum cov neeg feem coob xav txog poj niam txiv neej kinky, lawv xav txog BDSM, plaub-tsab ntawv acronym uas sawv rau yam sib txawv: Kev poob cev qhev, Kev qhuab qhia, kev tswj hwm, Kev mloog lus, kev poob siab, thiab Masochism. BDSM suav nrog kev ua ntau yam, los ntawm lub teeb me me thiab ntaus / ua yeeb yam / ua si rau kev ua nkauj qhev thiab cov nkauj ua si.
• Kev npau suav thiab lub luag haujlwm ua si. Ib qho ntawm cov ntaub ntawv tshaj plaws ntawm kev sib deev kinky cuam tshuam nrog kev tsim cov xwm txheej. Qhov no tuaj yeem yooj yim xws li tham txog kev npau suav hauv txaj, kom zoo li hnav khaub ncaws ua si lossis ua yeeb yam tawm sab nraud ntawm cov neeg tsis paub.
• Ko Taw. Ib ntawm plaub ntawm tus txiv neej thiab poj niam nyiam xav txog kev ua si fetish, txhais tau tias yog kho cov khoom tsis nyiam lossis lub cev lub cev sib deev. Cov me nyuam yaus muaj xws li cov taw thiab khau, tawv lossis roj hmab, thiab cov phuam da dej (muaj).
• Voyeurism lossis kev ua yeeb yam. Saib ib tug neeg hle khaub ncaws lossis saib ib nkawm muaj kev sib deev tsis muaj lawv cov kev paub yog hom voyeur txoj kev npau suav, thaum sib deev hauv cov chaw pej xeem yog ib hom kev nthuav qhia. Ob qho tib si yog qhov tsis txaus ntseeg (thiab kinky) - 35 feem pua ​​ntawm cov neeg laus uas tshawb fawb tau nyiam voyeurism.
• Pawg pw ua ke. Threesomes, poj niam txiv neej pw, orgies, thiab ntau dua - pab pawg sib deev yog ib qho kev ua uas muaj ntau dua li ob tus neeg. thiab 18 feem pua ​​ntawm cov txiv neej tau koom nrog kev sib deev pab pawg, thaum tseem ntau dua feem pua ​​tau txaus siab qhov kev xav no.

Kinky nrog txiv neej pw yuav muaj txiaj ntsig hauv qee txoj kev xav tsis thoob

Hnov txoj kev kawm ua ntej: Kev sib deev Kinky tuaj yeem pab koj zoo siab thiab muaj lub hlwb zoo. Pom hais tias ob qho tag nrho tseem ceeb thiab mloog lus xyaum ntawm BDSM tau:

• tsawg dua li neurotic
• ntau extroverted
• ntau qhib rau cov kev paub tshiab
• ntau ceev faj
• tsawg dua kev tsis lees paub-rhiab

Lawv kuj tau muaj cov qhab nia zoo dua piv rau cov pawg tswj hwm. Qhov no tuaj yeem txhais tau ob yam: Cov neeg uas muaj qhov cwj pwm no nyiam nyiam poj niam txiv neej sib deev, lossis qhov sib deev uas nyiam sib deev tuaj yeem pab koj loj hlob thiab muaj kev ntseeg siab. Tab sis tom kawg yog qhov ntxim nyiam heev, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog raws li peb tshawb fawb ntau ntxiv txog cuam tshuam ntawm kev sib deev kinky.

Piv txwv li, pom tias cov khub niam txiv uas tau koom nrog qhov zoo, kev pom zoo sadomasochistic (SM) kev ua si muaj qis dua qhov kev cuam tshuam kev nyuaj siab hormone cortisol, thiab kuj tau tshaj qhia ntau dua kev xav ntawm kev sib raug zoo thiab kev sib raug zoo tom qab lawv sib deev.

Thiab kev tshawb kawm uantej ntawm qee tus "hloov" (cov neeg coj lub luag haujlwm txawv uas lawv tau siv, xws li tus tswv uas dhau los ua sub) pom tias kev tso cai BDSM tuaj yeem txo kev ntxhov siab los ntawm coj lub siab mus rau qhov hloov "kev hloov kho" ”Kev nco qab. Qhov no zoo ib yam nrog cov kev xav ib txhia tau thaum lawv muaj kev ua lub “siab sib tw,” tsim kev kos duab, lossis xyaum yoga.

Nkag siab txog poj niam txiv neej kev ntseeg kev tsis txaus ntseeg, cov lus tso tawm thiab cov dab neeg

Nws tsis yog qhov xav tsis thoob uas vim tias peb tsis tham txog kev sib deev kinky, muaj ntau lub tswvyim hais ua dabneeg thiab kev ntseeg tsis meej nyob rau hauv. Qhia meej meej huab cua rau ob peb hom dab neeg kink stereotypes.

Poj niam nyiam kink, ib yam nkaus

Thaum qee yam tshwj xeeb ntawm kinky poj niam feem ntau nyiam ib tus txiv neej ntau dua li lwm tus - piv txwv li, ntau tus txiv neej nyiam xav mus ko taw ua si, thaum tus poj niam ntau dua xav paub qhov mob yog ib feem ntawm kev sib deev - txiv neej thiab poj niam xav tshawb kink sib npaug.

Koj tsis yog "vwm" sim sim BDSM

Hauv kev tshaj tawm xov xwm, BDSM feem ntau cuam tshuam nrog kev tsim txom thiab kev ua phem. Qee cov neeg xyaum ua yeeb yam tseem tau ntsib kev tsim txom thiab kev ntxub ntxaug vim lawv kinks. Tab sis kev tshawb fawb qhia tias tus neeg nruab nrab uas koom nrog kev tso cai kink muaj qhov siab tshaj-qhov nruab nrab ntawm kev mob hlwb.

Koj tsis tas yuav siv ntau cov khoom siv zoo nkauj

Daim duab ntawm tawv-clad dominatrix wielding txuam nrog nplawm yuav dhia mus rau siab thaum koj xav txog kev sib deev kinky. Tab sis tiag tiag, txhua yam koj xav tau yog kev xav thiab tus khub uas yog qhov kev ua si.

Yog tias koj txaus siab rau qee tus menyuam yaus lossis xav tshawb xyuas lub ntiaj teb ntau dua, muaj cov khw muag khoom noj rau qhov ntawd. Tab sis kev sim kink tsis ze li cov khoom siv-hnyav li, hais, ua si hauv koj cov kev ua si hockey kev ua si hauv zos. Koj tsis tas yuav tsum siv cov ntaub thaiv los yog lub xauv tes yog tias koj xav tau ua si nrog qhov tsis hnov ​​lossis raug khi - khi lossis tog hauv ncoo tuaj yeem ua haujlwm hauv ob qho xwm txheej.

Ua kom chav pw ua si lom zem thiab nyab xeeb

Txawm hais tias kinky nrog txiv neej pw muaj ntau qhov txiaj ntsig, thiab txawm hais tias nws tuaj yeem yog txhua yam uas koj thiab koj tus khub xav tau nws, tseem muaj qee yam uas koj yuav tsum nco ntsoov hauv siab kom koj kev siv dag zog lom zem, nyab xeeb, thiab zoo.

Txhua yam pib nrog kev pom zoo

Qhia kev pom zoo tsis yog qee yam uas tshwm sim ua ntej koj nrog tus khub tshiab, nws yog qee yam uas yuav tsum tau tshwm sim ua ntej kev sib deev, tshwj xeeb yog koj sim qee yam kinky thawj zaug. Kev sib txuas lus nws tseem ceeb heev rau kev sib raug zoo nrog kev sib deev, tab sis tseem ceeb heev thaum koj tshawb txog qhov tseem ceeb / ua haujlwm hauv qab lossis ua rau muaj mob.

Cov lus nyab xeeb tsis muaj lus tso dag

Ib feem ntawm koj txoj kev npau suav tej zaum yuav muaj kev txwv lossis kev tsis kam - uas yog ntau dua li qhov koj yuav xav ntawm cov poj niam. Yuav kom paub tseeb tias koj tuaj yeem hais tias tsis yog hauv koj qhov kev npau suav hauv ntiaj teb, tab sis tseem muaj txoj hauv kev kom meej meej hais tias tsis yog rau koj tus hlub, siv cov lus zoo uas koj pom zoo ua ntej koj tau txais kinky. Cov kab lus neej ntawd koj tuaj yeem siv yog lub teeb liab (nres) thiab lub teeb ntsuab (khaws mus ntxiv).

Xav txog (thiab tham txog) koj "nyuaj txwv"

Txhua tus nyias muaj nyias qhov txwv thiab ciam. Thaum tab tom qhib kev ua haujlwm tshiab chav pw yog qhov zoo, qhib qhov uas koj tsis xav mus tshawb (zoo li tsis muaj, puas yog) yog qhov tseem ceeb ib yam. Tham txog cov “kev txwv nyuaj” nrog koj tus khub yam qhib siab - tsis muaj ib qho laj thawj uas yuav ua rau yus tsis zais siab.

Nco ntsoov tias qhov mob siab yooj yim - thiab tsis muaj kev phom sij

Qhov loj ntawm kev sib deev kinky yog muab qhov mob thiab kev lom zem. Txawm hais tias ntau tus khub niam txiv kos cov kab ntawm lub teeb me lossis ntaus me me, cov neeg uas tshawb txog lwm txoj hauv kev - xws li mis thiab mob ntawm qhov chaw mos - yuav tsum qhia lawv tus kheej kom lawv tsis txhob ua rau cov nqaij mos lossis mob puas tsuaj mus ntev.

Kev saib xyuas me nyuam tseem yog ib qho tseem ceeb

Txawm tias thaum koom nrog kev sib deev tsis yog-kinky, cov poj niam tuaj yeem ntsib "," uas suav nrog cov tsos mob xws li ntxhov siab, npau taws, lossis quaj vim li cas. Tawm tsam qhov no nrog kev saib xyuas tom qab, uas sib koom nrog kev sib raug zoo thiab sib tham, yog qhov tseem ceeb, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog rau BDSM.

Yog li ntawd tsis txhob cia li mus pw tom qab sib deev ntau heev. Kos rau hauv koj tus khub thiab paub tseeb tias lawv tsis ua li cas nrog qhov cia li nqes.

Nco ntsoov: Kinky sex yog qhov koj xav tau nws

Kink tuaj yeem saib xyuas zoo heev rau cov khub niam txiv sib txawv, thiab qhov ntawd tsis zoo. Kawm kink tsis tas yuav pib nrog yuav ib lub cev tawv nqaij khaub ncaws thiab nplawm. Nws tuaj yeem ua tau yooj yim raws li pom muaj dab tsi tshwm sim thaum koj so ntawm koj chav pw ib txwm ua thiab nkag mus rau lub ntiaj teb tshiab ntawm kev sib deev.

Cov ntsiab lus tseem ceeb ntawm kev sib deev kinky zoo ib yam li cov neeg muaj kev sib raug zoo, lub sijhawm ntev:

• kev sib txuas lus
• ntseeg
• kev nkag siab
• ua siab ntev

Thiab tam sim no koj paub tias qhov kev tshawb fawb tau pom zoo, tsis txhob cia cov chaw tsim kev sib raug zoo tau raws li koj lub siab nyiam. Mus tawm los thiab tsis muaj dab tsi.

Sarah Aswell yog tus kws sau ntawv ywj pheej uas nyob hauv Missoula, Montana, nrog nws tus txiv thiab ob tug ntxhais. Nws sau ntawv tau tshwm sim rau hauv cov ntawv tshaj tawm uas suav nrog Tus New Yorker, McSweeney's, Lub Tebchaws Lub Teeb, thiab Tus Ceg Txo. Koj yuav ncav tes pab nws Xov Xwm Twitter.