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Theodora Blanchfield, 31, tus tswj kev tshaj xov xwm los ntawm Manhattan txaus siab rau qhov tseeb tias tsib xyoos dhau los, nws poob 50 phaus. Qhov tseeb, nws yog ib qho kev taug kev uas nws tau tshaj tawm rau pej xeem hauv nws qhov blog Poob Nyhav hauv Lub Nroog. Tseem muaj qee tus neeg nws tsis kam ua rau: nws cov hnub nyiam.

Blanchfield hais tias "Nws tawm tsam txhua yam kuv ntseeg hauv, tab sis qhov tseeb uas kuv tau hnyav ua rau kuv xav tias muaj kev phom sij thiab tseem txaj muag," "Kuv txhawj xeeb lawv yuav xav tias kuv yuav rov qab los. Los yog tias kuv ib txwm noj thiab yuav tsis muaj kev lom zem - zoo li txhua yam kuv ua yog noj zaub xam lav thiab ua haujlwm tawm." (Txaus siab rau cov hnub, sijhawm zoo siab, thiab ntau ntxiv nrog Cov Lus Qhia Yooj Yim Rau Txhua Hnub So Hnub Ua Haujlwm.) Hmoov tsis zoo, qhov kev ntshai ntawd tau lees paub rau Blanchfield ntawm thawj hnub tsis ntev los no. Ib tug poj niam acquaintance qw thoob plaws lub bar, "Kuv hlub koj blog!" ua kom nws hnub mus nug Blanchfield qhov blog tau hais txog. Nws hais rau nws-thiab tsis tau hnov ​​dua los ntawm nws ntxiv lawm.

Blanchfield yuav tsis paub tias vim li cas nws hnub ploj mus, tab sis cov kws tshaj lij pom zoo tias nws yog qhov zoo los tos kom txog thaum koj muaj ob peb hnub ua ntej sib qhia cov ntaub ntawv tus kheej xws li poob phaus. "Yog tias ib qho ntawm koj qhov kev xav thawj zaug yog kev paub tias koj nyuam qhuav poob qhov hnyav, nws lossis nws yuav pom qhov no yog ib qho ntawm koj lub ntsiab lus tseem ceeb," Mimi Tanner, tus sau ntawm Rov Qab Ultimatum: Tau Txais Kev Cog Lus Tsis Muaj Teeb Meem. Yog li cas raws nraim ua koj qhia txog koj yav dhau los?

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"Tsis txhob hais tias 'Kuv tau rog,' sim hais tias, 'Kuv pib kev cob qhia rau kev sib tw marathon ib xyoos dhau los, thiab kuv poob ntau heev. Nws zoo heev," Sara Eckel, tus sau ntawm Nws Tsis Yog Koj: 27 (Tsis raug) Vim Li Cas Koj Thiaj Li Nyob Ib Leeg. "Tib neeg feem ntau xav kawm paub koj tau ua li cas. Koj tau tswj hwm qee yam hauv koj lub neej." Ua haujlwm lub ntsiab lus rau hauv kev sib tham tsis muaj qhov tsis txaus ntseeg es tsis txhob tso lub foob pob. (Tom qab tag nrho, koj tsuas yog sib qhia uas koj siv los ua qhov sib txawv me me-tsis yog tias koj tau nyiag koj tus neeg nyob ze lub tsev.) Blanchfield-uas nyuam qhuav hloov lub npe ntawm nws blog mus rau The Preppy Runner-tau saws txoj hauv kev tshiab no. Nws hais tias "Kuv lub hom phiaj txo qis qhov hnyav thiab hais txog kev tawm dag zog,"

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Nws yog qhov txaus siab xav qhia tawm qhov zoo uas tau pab koj ua tiav lub hom phiaj zoo kawg nkaus. Leej twg yuav tsis xav nrog ib tus neeg uas tau ua pov thawj teev cia ntawm kev ua siab loj, kev cog lus, thiab kev qhuab qhia tus kheej? Yog tias koj yuav tsum tuaj nrog tus lej, hnub thib tsib yog lub sijhawm zoo tshaj plaws rau kev nthuav tawm loj, hais tias Tanner. Nws tau hais tias "Lawv yuav paub koj tam sim no thiab tuaj yeem suav nrog cov ntaub ntawv tshiab no yam tsis muaj kev puas tsuaj rau lawv qhov kev xav ua ntej," nws hais. (Yog xav paub ntxiv sijhawm, nyeem Lub Sijhawm Zoo Los Tham Txog Txhua Yam Hauv Kev Sib Txheeb.)

Tej zaum qhov qhia tau zoo dua ntawm lub sijhawm los qhia, txawm li cas los xij, yog thaum koj xav npaj. Eckel hais tias "Koj tsis tas yuav qhia txhua tus neeg txog koj zaj dab neeg hauv lub neej. "Nws zoo dua los ntawm qhov chaw hwm tus kheej. Tsis txhob xav tias, 'Nws puas yuav txiav txim rau kuv?' xav tias, 'Kuv puas txaus siab muab cov ntaub ntawv no rau tus neeg no?' Koj muab lub zog rau koj tus kheej. "

Ilyssa Israel, 39, tus pab thawj coj los ntawm Springfield, NJ, zoo siab nrog ib tus txiv neej uas nws hais rau nws hnub thib ob uas nws tau poob ze li 100 phaus tom qab tau phais phais mob plab-thiab tau txais kev phais ntxiv kom tshem tawm cov tawv nqaij ntau dhau . Nws cov lus teb: "Zoo heev! Zoo rau koj!" Tom qab ntawd nws lees txim nws tus kheej tawm tsam nrog qhov hnyav thiab lub cev duab. "Kuv xav tias qhia nws thaum ntxov ua rau peb los ze zog," Ixayees hais. "Peb tuaj yeem qhia ib leeg rau peb qhov kev paub tsis meej tshaj plaws thiab lees txais tag nrho." Lawv sib yuav ob xyoos tom qab.

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Tsis muaj teeb meem ntau npaum li cas koj tham nrog koj yav dhau los, koj tsis tuaj yeem tswj hwm li cas lwm tus hnov ​​nws. Npaj rau qee qhov kom ntiav los yog tsis tsim nyog, ntxiv rau Eckel. Tab sis paub tias qee zaum, tib neeg ua rau koj xav tsis thoob. Blanchfield tau raug kov thaum ib tug txiv leej tub nws hnub tim hais rau nws tias nws tau tshoov nws siab thiab tom qab ntawd, nws poob ntau qhov hnyav. Nws hais tias "Nws zoo siab paub tias hloov kuv lub neej thiab tso nws tawm muaj qhov txiaj ntsig zoo rau lwm tus," nws hais. (Ntxiv qhov ntawd rau 6 Cov Cim Tsis Pom Zoo Nws yog Tus Saib Xyuas.)

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