4 ProDommes Qhia Tawm Raws Li Qhov Nws Zoo Li Los Ua Dominatrix IRL

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• Dab tsi yog Dominatrix, Tseeb?
• Leej Twg Mus Rau Tus Kws Tshaj Lij Dominatrix?
• Cov txiaj ntsig ntawm kev ua haujlwm nrog Dominatrix
• Dab tsi yog Kev Sib Tham nrog Tus Kws Tshaj Lij Dominatrix Zoo li?
• Ua Dominatrix Siv (Muaj Peev Xwm!) Ua Haujlwm
• Yuav Ua Li Cas Yog Dominatrix?
• Tshuaj xyuas rau

Qhov nrov ntawmEuphoria thiabTsevneeg, ob lub TV qhia uas muaj Dominatrix ua cov cim tseem ceeb-Kat Hernandez thiab Tiff Chester, raws li qhia-qhia cov neeg txaus siab rau lub tswv yim ntawm Dominatrix.

Hmoov tsis zoo, muaj ntau qhov kev thuam ntawm ob qho tib si qhia 'kev coj ua ntawm BDSM. Ntau lub suab txhawj xeeb tias vim tias Kat tsis muaj hnub nyoog, nws lub luag haujlwm ua Dominatrix yog innately dis-empowering. Lwm tus yob lub qhov muag ntawm qhov tsis ncaj ncees lawmTsevneeg's portrayal yog pom zoo thiab ciam teb nyob rau hauv ib tug D/s kev sib raug zoo. Thiab ob qho yeeb yaj kiab hauv TV tau raug liam tias ua rau cov tub rog tsis txaus siab uas txhua tus neeg ua haujlwm sib deev tau dim ntawm (feem ntau yog kev sib deev) raug mob.

Tias yog vim li cas "koj tsis tuaj yeem cia siab rau qhov koj tau pom hauv kev tshaj xov xwm txog Dominatrix kom nkag siab tias nws yog peb ua, vim li cas peb ua nws, peb yog leej twg, lossis kev nyab xeeb BDSM kev coj ua zoo li cas," hais tias Andre Shakti, tus kws tshaj lij Dominatrix, tus kws qhia kev sib deev, thiab tus kws qhia kev sib raug zoo.

Nrog qhov ntawd hauv siab, Shakti thiab peb lwm tus kws tshaj lij Dominatrices qhia qhov ua Dominatrix yog qhov zoo li. Ntawm no, lawv piav qhia tias Dominatrix yog dab tsi tiag tiag yog, yam khoom dab tsi uas lawv tuaj yeem ua nrog tus neeg siv khoom, lub rooj sib tham zoo li cas, thiab nws cuam tshuam li cas rau lawv lub neej tsis yog kws tshaj lij.

Dab tsi yog Dominatrix, Tseeb?

Peb tus phooj ywg zoo Merriam Webster txhais tias Dominatrix yog "tus poj niam uas lub cev lossis lub hlwb tswj hwm nws tus khub hauv kev sib ntsib sadomasochistic." (Thiab, yog, nws ib txwm muaj peev txheej, raws li lub ntsej muag rau lub zog muaj zog cuam tshuam nrog.)

Qhov kev txhais no yog ntau dua lossis tsawg dua, piav qhia Swell Cat, tus poj niam hloov pauv uas yog lub hnub qub ua haujlwm sib deev online thiab Dominatrix, sau tseg ntau tus tsis yog binary, poj niam txiv neej-queer, lossis poj niam-raws li cov neeg txheeb xyuas raws li Dominatrices ib yam.

Tab sis yog tias koj tsis paub tias "sadomasochistic ntsib" yog dab tsi, qhov txhais tau hais txog qhov muaj txiaj ntsig zoo li ntaus Google kom paub seb koj puas muaj STI. Kev sib ntsib sadomasochistic yog "qhov uas ib tus neeg ua lub luag haujlwm ntau dua thaum tshawb nrhiav kink thiab BDSM," piav qhia Shakti. (Yog tias koj xav tau kev kho dua tshiab ntawm BDSM, hla dhau ntawm BDSM Pib Phau Ntawv Qhia sai sai, tom qab ntawd rov qab los ntawm no.)

Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb uas yuav tsum tau hais tias muaj qhov sib txawv ntawm txoj kev ua neej Dominatrix thiab tus kws tshaj lij Dominatrix, hais tias Lola Jean, Dominatrix thiab tus kws qhia kev sib deev. Qee tus neeg xav ua lub luag haujlwm tseem ceeb 24/7 -lub ntsiab lus, lawv muaj ib tus neeg ua haujlwm rau lawv txhua lub sijhawm, txawm tias sab nraum chav pw lossis qhov taub. Cov no yog kev ua neej nyob Dominatrices.

Rau lwm tus, zoo li cov neeg xam phaj rau kab lus no, ua Dominatrix yog txoj haujlwm tshaj lij. Shakti piav qhia "" Thaum koj yog tus kws tshaj lij, koj muaj kev paub zoo hauv kev kink lossis BDSM cov ntsiab lus, "piav qhia Shakti. "Cov neeg tuaj rau koj rau qhov kev txawj ntse, thiab kev lag luam nyiaj txiag tshwm sim. Nws yog kev sib deev ua haujlwm."

Txawm li cas los xij, thaum "Dominatrix yog lo lus koj yuav pom feem ntau hauv xov xwm, nws tsis yog lo lus feem ntau siv," hais Jean. Hloov chaw ntawm kev txheeb xyuas tias "Dominatrix," feem ntau cov neeg siv lo lus Domme lossis Dom. Los yog ProDomme/ProDomme yog tias lawv yog cov kws tshaj lij. (Tus so ntawm kab lus no yog nyob ntawm ProDommes.)

Leej Twg Mus Rau Tus Kws Tshaj Lij Dominatrix?

Paub qhov no: Tsis muaj ib hom neeg. Cov neeg ntawm txhua lub hnub nyoog, poj niam txiv neej, kev taw qhia, thiab haiv neeg tuaj yeem xaiv ntiav ProDomme. (Txawm hais tias nws tsim nyog hais tias vim tias feem ntau ProDommes them ntawm $ 200 thiab $ 400 toj ib teev, cov neeg siv khoom feem ntau yog nruab nrab lossis qib siab).

"Kuv cov neeg tau txais txiaj ntsig los ntawm cov thawj coj ntawm qib siab, kws phais neeg, thiab kws lij choj rau cov khub niam txiv, poj niam poj niam, cov neeg hloov pauv, thiab cov neeg xiav-dub tsuas tab tom nrhiav kev tshawb nrhiav thiab nthuav lawv txoj kev sib deev, kev xav, thiab kev sib txuas ntawm lawv tus kheej tiag tiag," hais tias Ashley Paige, tus kws tshaj lij NYC-based Dominatrix.

Cov txiaj ntsig ntawm kev ua haujlwm nrog Dominatrix

Xav tsis thoob vim li cas qee tus neeg yuav ntiav Dominatrix? Ntau yam laj thawj. "Qee tus neeg nrhiav peb vim lawv pom 'Fifty Shades of Grey' thiab txaus siab rau kev sim nrog BDSM thawj zaug," Shakti hais. Hauv nws lub tswv yim, "ntiav ib tus kws tshaj lij yog ib txoj hauv kev zoo tshaj plaws thiab muaj kev nyab xeeb tshaj plaws los pib tshawb nrhiav BDSM, kinks, lossis fetishes." Qhov ntawd yog vim muaj kev nyab xeeb (r) txoj hauv kev los ua tej yam xws li nplawm, flog, spank, choke, lossis nplawm ib tus neeg - txhua yam uas cov kws tshaj lij paub, tab sis tus khub yuav tsis ua. Ntxiv rau, tus kws tshaj lij tuaj yeem tsim qhov Jean hu, "qhov chaw tsis muaj kev nyab xeeb rau lub cev los tshawb nrhiav koj lub siab nyiam," hauv txoj kev koom tes (tshwj xeeb yog tsis koom nrog kev hlub) yuav tsis tuaj yeem ua.

Lwm tus neeg nrhiav ProDommes los ua qhov kev npau suav tshwj xeeb. "Qee lub sij hawm cov neeg siv khoom yuav tau sau tag nrho cov ntawv nrog cov kab tshwj xeeb uas lawv xav kom kuv hais thaum lub sijhawm," Shakti hais. Lossis, lawv tuaj yeem thov kom muaj kev sib deev tshwj xeeb. Hauv qhov xwm txheej tom kawg, cov neeg siv khoom yuav ntiav tus kws tshaj lij tshwj xeeb hauv txoj cai ntawd (yep, ProDommes muaj qhov tshwj xeeb). Paige, piv txwv li, tshwj xeeb hauv "sadomasochism, kev hloov pauv tus cwj pwm, kev xav-kev tswj hwm nruj, cuam tshuam kev ua si, thiab kev rau txim rau lub cev, kev ua si hauv lub cev, kev ua si ntawm lub cev, kev sib tw, kev ua si thawj zaug, kev cob qhia hauv chav dej tag nrho, kev tsis txaus siab thiab kev ua haujlwm dhau, kev cob qhia qhev. , thiab tantric kink nrog tsom mus rau ua pa ua haujlwm thiab catharsis ... rau npe ob peb. " Lwm yam tshwj xeeb suav nrog quav, zaub mov, tawg, zaws-tsim txom, ua rau lub siab xav, ua kom poob ntsej muag, nipple-tsim txom, kho mob ua si, qaib thiab pob tsim txom, lub txiv mis tsim txom, cuam tshuam kev ua si, thiab pegging. (Yog xav paub ntxiv txog ~ tag nrho cov no ~, koj yuav xav mus xyuas Qhov kawg Qhia rau Kink los ntawm Tristan Taormino thiab Barbara Carrellas lossis Decoding Koj Kink los ntawm Galen Fous.)

ICYWW, cov neeg siv khoom tsis tas yuav paub qhov lawv xav sim ua ntej ncav cuag ProDomme-tus kws tshaj lij tuaj yeem pab koj txiav txim siab qhov ntawd. "Thaum ib tus neeg tsis paub qhov lawv xav sim, peb yuav tham txog qhov kawg uas lawv tau ua kom zoo siab rau, lawv nyiam dab tsi porn, lawv xav li cas txog, thiab lawv xav xav li cas thaum / tom qab kev sib kho," hais Jean . "Kuv yuav siv cov ntaub ntawv ntawd thiab qhia kev ua uas kuv xav tias yuav haum nrog qhov ntawd, thiab tom qab ntawd peb mam tham nws dua." (FYI, cov no yog cov kev xav sib deev feem ntau.)

Dab tsi yog Kev Sib Tham nrog Tus Kws Tshaj Lij Dominatrix Zoo li?

Feem ntau, kev sib pauv ntawm ProDomme thiab cov neeg siv khoom yuav pib thaum tus neeg siv googles Dominatrix hauv lawv cheeb tsam thiab hu rau Domme lawv xav tias yuav yog qhov zoo. Tom qab ntawd, ob leeg yuav tham (ntawm email, xov tooj, lossis social media) txog yam uas tus neeg siv khoom tab tom nrhiav; yog tias nws haum zoo, lawv yuav teem caij. Yog tias tsis yog, Domme feem ntau tuaj yeem txuas tus neeg siv khoom nrog tus kws tshaj lij uas yuav ua tau zoo dua, hais tias Shakti.

Tom qab ntawd, feem ntau lawv yuav pom zoo rau qhov chaw thiab kev sib ntsib. "Ntau qhov kev sib tham tshwm sim hauv chav tsev so lossis hauv lub qhov taub lag luam uas muaj ntau chav me," Jean hais. Qee tus Dommes yuav mus rau tus neeg siv khoom lub tsev kom them nqi, tab sis feem ntau tsuas yog lawv tau ua haujlwm ua ke ua ntej, "nws hais (vim, kev nyab xeeb).

Thawj 5 txog 15 feeb ntawm kev sib tham suav nrog tsuas yog tham thiab ua kom sib haum xeeb, raws li Shakti. "Txawm hais tias peb twb tau tham txog dab tsi yuav tshwm sim, peb yuav mus ntxiv nws zaum thib ob. ua, "nws hais. "Tom qab ntawd, tus neeg siv khoom yuav them kuv, thiab peb yuav cais mus rau qhov xwm txheej." Ntev npaum li cas ib qho kev tshwm sim yuav txawv, tab sis rau nws, lawv feem ntau kav 45 mus rau 50 feeb.

Ib yam uas koj yuav xav tsis thoob los kawm yog qhov, feem ntau, cov xwm txheej tsis suav nrog kev sib deev nkag mus. Paige hais tias "Thaum muaj ntau qhov kev ua uas muaj kev sib deev zoo li nrig lossis ua si prostate, ntau tus kws tshaj lij Dominatrices tsis muaj kev sib deev nrog lawv cov neeg siv khoom," Paige hais.

Tom qab ntawd, "peb yuav siv sijhawm ob peb feeb los tshuaj xyuas seb lawv xav li cas," Shakti hais. Tom qab ntawd, yog tias qhov chaw muaj da dej, tus neeg siv khoom tuaj yeem xaiv siv nws. Nws hais tias "Tom qab ntawd peb tuav tes thiab ua ib feem,"

Qee cov neeg siv khoom muaj kev npau suav lawv tsuas yog "xav tau" kom nyob ib zaug. Shakti hais tias "Cov neeg uas yog tus tshiab rau BDSM zoo li yuav sau kuv rau ob peb zaug kom peb tuaj yeem yooj yim rau nws," Shakti hais. Lwm tus neeg muaj sijhawm teem sijhawm nrog lawv ProDommes. (Related: BDSM Txuag Kuv Kev Sib Yuav Tsis Tau Los ntawm Kev Sib Nrauj)

Ua Dominatrix Siv (Muaj Peev Xwm!) Ua Haujlwm

Muaj qhov tsis nkag siab tias kev sib deev tsis yog haujlwm "tiag" (*qhov muag yob *), tab sis qhov ntawd tsis tuaj yeem deb dua qhov tseeb. Paige hais tias "Ua Dominatrix yog txoj hauv kev ntau dua li khaws tus nplawm thiab qw ntawm ib tus neeg," Paige hais. Muaj peev xwm koom nrog BDSM yam nyab xeeb txhais tau tias paub yuav ua li cas nplawm, nplawm, hnoos, thiab lwm yam ib tus neeg yam tsis ua rau rov ua dua (lossis tsis pom zoo) raug mob. "Peb cov uas mob siab rau peb txoj haujlwm mus rau kev cob qhia, nyeem phau ntawv, ua kev tshawb fawb, thiab tau mob siab rau cov sij hawm thiab cov sij hawm ntawm kev xyaum kom ntseeg tau tias txhua tus neeg tuaj yeem taug kev mus tag nrho thiab zoo dua li yav dhau los - txawm tias qhov ntawd txhais tau tias taug kev mus nrog (kev pom zoo ) bruise los yog ob, "nws hais.

Dominatrices kuj xav tau kev txawj ntse ntawm tus kheej. Shakti hais tias "Nws nyuaj rau rub cov ntaub ntawv tawm ntawm qee tus neeg siv khoom, thiab koj yuav tsum muaj peev xwm nkag mus rau hauv qab ntawm yam lawv xav tau thiab nyiam yam tsis ua yeeb yam zoo li koj tab tom rub cov hniav," Shakti hais. Koj kuj tseem xav tau kev nkag siab zoo thiab muaj peev xwm ntsuas tib neeg lub zog, "yog li koj tuaj yeem ua rau lawv xav tias txhawb nqa, siv tau, thiab nyab xeeb thoob plaws hauv kev sib tham," nws hais. Ntau tus neeg siv khoom tuaj rau hauv kev sib tham nrog kev txaj muag ntau txog lawv txoj kev nyiam kev nyiam sib deev lossis kev nyiam, thiab ProDomme yuav tsum pab lawv maj los ntawm cov kev xav, ib yam, hais tias Shakti. (Qhov no yog ib feem yog vim li cas ntau tus poj niam siv BDSM raws li kev kho mob.)

Huag, thiab "koj yuav tsum yog koj tus neeg sawv cev, tus thawj tswj hwm, tus tsim lub vev xaib, tus txhawb nqa, tsim khoom lag luam, tus thawj tswj hwm kev sib tham, luam tus kws sau ntawv, thiab tus kws yees duab/kws yees duab," nws hais ntxiv. Yog, muaj ib qho laj thawj kev sib deev ua haujlwm hu ua kev sib deevua hauj lwm.

Tab sis tsis txhob nyeem nws yuam kev: Qhov ntawd tsis txhais hais tias txhua Dominatrices dov hauv khob noom cookie. Shakti hais tias "Muaj kev xav tsis zoo uas peb tsis muaj tsev nyob lossis cuam tshuam ntau pua, tab sis qhov ntawd tsis yog qhov tseeb," Shakti hais. "Muaj ntau tus neeg ua haujlwm pw ua ke uas yog cov neeg nruab nrab."

Yuav Ua Li Cas Yog Dominatrix?

Nws yeej txawv dua liTsevneeg los yogEuphoria tej zaum koj yuav ntseeg. Rau qhov pib, cov yeeb yam no yuav qhia tias ProDommes tsis muaj peev xwm ua kom muaj kev noj qab haus huv / kev sib raug zoo. Qhov tseeb, qhov tsis yog. "Muaj ntau peb muaj peev xwm tswj tau kev sib raug zoo sab nraud ntawm peb txoj haujlwm!" hais tias Jean. "Yog, qee zaum peb txoj haujlwm ua rau nyuaj dua vim peb xav tau cov koom tes uas nkag siab thiab txhawb peb txoj haujlwm, tab sis nws yog qhov ua tau." Thaum qee zaum ProDommes tseem yog Dommes hauv lawv txoj kev sib deev / kev sib deev IRL, "lwm tus yog keyboards, submissive, lossis vanilla hauv lawv lub neej tiag," ntxiv Shakti. (Lub ntsiab lus, lawv yuav nyiam tso tseg kev tswj hwm qee zaum lossis txhua lub sijhawm, lossis tuaj yeem nyiam tus kheej kev sib deev lub neej yam tsis muaj kink lossis BDSM.)

Tshaj li qhov ntawd, Paige qhia tias ua tus kws tshaj lij Dominatrix tau ua rau nws lub neej muaj txiaj ntsig ntau."Nws tau pab kuv nrhiav tau kuv lub hwj chim thiab muaj txhua yam ntawm kuv tus kheej ntau dua li kuv suav tau," nws hais. "Thiab ntau yam kev txawj ntse thiab kev paub dhau los uas kuv tau txais los ntawm kev ua Dominatrix, Kuv tau siv tau rau txhua yam hauv kuv lub neej ... lub neej vim yog ua Dominatrix. " (Nws yog qhov tseeb: Kev sib deev Kinky tuaj yeem ua rau koj mob siab rau.)

Cov kab hauv qab: Paige hais tias "Ntau tus neeg tsis muaj txoj cai ua kom tiav thiab muaj tseeb tiag nrog lawv lub siab xav nyob qhov twg lwm qhov hauv lawv lub neej," Paige hais. "Thaum, yog, ua Dominatrix tuaj yeem suav nrog txhua qhov kev ua yeeb yam ntawm tus nplawm thiab saw uas koj pom hauv TV, nws ncaj ncees ntau ntxiv txog kev sib txuas, kev pom zoo, thiab tsim catharsis. Ib yam peb xav tau ntau ntxiv hauv ntiaj teb vwm no," nws hais. Tseeb tiag.

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