Yuav Ua Li Cas Tiv Tiav Koj Cov Menyuam Kom Tsis Tom

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• Koj yuav xav li cas thaum tus me nyuam tom tom?
• 1. Ua kom koj qhov txias
• 2. Muab kev nplij siab
• 3. Qhia lawv cov kev los qhia lawv tus kheej
• 4. Sijhawm ua tiav
• 5. Ua qauv coj tus cwj pwm zoo
• Dab tsis ua
• Vim li cas cov me nyuam yaus tom
• Koj yuav ua li cas tiv thaiv tus menyuam tsis tau tom?
• Saib qauv
• Muab lwm yam kev xaiv
• Siv qhov cuab lub zog txhawb
• Thaum mus ntsib kws kho mob
• Nqa Nyiaj

Peb suav nrog cov khoom uas peb xav tias tseem ceeb rau peb cov nyeem. Yog tias koj yuav los ntawm cov txuas hauv nplooj ntawv no, peb yuav khwv tau nyiaj me me. Ntawm no yog peb cov txheej txheem.

Raws li cov menyuam mos pib loj hlob mus rau cov menyuam me, lawv tau xyaum coj cwj pwm tshiab. Qee qhov ntawm no ntxim hlub tab sis lwm tus… tsis ntau. Thaum koj yuav nyiam lawv cov lus tsis zoo thiab kev hais lus hnia, kev tom yog qhov kev coj ua tsis zoo uas qee tus menyuam khaws.

Txawm hais tias lawv loj me me, cov menyuam yaus thiab cov menyuam yaus tuaj yeem muaj qhov tom ntej, thiab koj yuav xav daws qhov teeb meem sai. Kev tom tsis tau tsuas yog ua rau muaj kev mob siab rau koj, lawv cov nus muag, thiab lawv cov neeg ua si tab sis kuj muaj teeb meem loj rau cov pab pawg lossis chaw zov menyuam.

Peb nyob ntawm no los tshawb txog cov laj thawj uas yog vim li cas cov menyuam yaus tom qab tom thiab muab tswv yim los pab cuam tshuam tus cwj pwm.

Koj yuav xav li cas thaum tus me nyuam tom tom?

Qhov me nyuam tom no yuav ua tau mob, ntxhov siab, thiab sim koj lub siab ntev, tshwj xeeb yog koj tsis paub yuav ua li cas thiaj ua rau nws nres. Nco ntsoov tias, txawm li cas los xij, koj qhov kev tawm tsam yuav cuam tshuam lossis tsis zoo rau qhov xwm txheej.

Nws tsis muaj ib txoj kev los txwv kom ib tug me nyuam tsis tom, vim li ntawd nws yuav siv ntau lub tswv yim los tswj cov teeb meem. Nov yog qee qhov kev xaiv los sim:

1. Ua kom koj qhov txias

Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom nyob tus yees, tseem khov kho. Koj xav hais kom meej meej tias kev yoov yog qhov tsis tuaj yeem lees paub, tab sis tib lub sijhawm, tsis txhob plam koj tus kheej.

Yog tias koj tsa suab nrov lossis npau taws, koj tus menyuam me kuj yuav npau taws thiab. Thiab yog tias koj ho zam dhau qhov laj thawj tsis ua rau yoov tom, koj tus me nyuam yuav mloog dua los yog xav tsis thoob li. Qhov zoo tshaj plaws koj tuaj yeem ua tau yog khaws nws yooj yim.

Hais txog qhov teeb meem no txhua zaus uas nws tshwm sim, rov hais dua tias qhov tom raug mob thiab tsis yog cai. Koj muaj peev xwm hais tej yam xws li “tsis tom” lossis “tsum tom” thiab maj mam txav tus me nyuam tom mus rau qhov chaw uas lawv tsis tom ntxiv. Kev kho zoo dua tuaj yeem pab tswj tus cwj pwm.

2. Muab kev nplij siab

Pab cov menyuam to taub tias kev tom raug lwm tus mob. Yog li yog tias koj tus menyuam tom ib tus phooj ywg lossis cov menyuam kwv tij, nplij tus neeg raug tsim txom.

Yog koj tus menyuam pom koj muab kev mloog zoo rau tus neeg raug tsim txom, lawv yuav ua rau qhov kev sib thab ua rau mob, nrog rau qhov nws tsis ua rau muaj kev tsis txaus siab lossis muaj kev tsis txaus ntshai.

Ntawm sab flip, yog koj tus menyuam me "tau nws" thiab chim siab thaum paub tias lawv ua mob rau lawv tus phooj ywg lossis kwvtij, koj yuav tsum nplig lawv thiab. Tseem, thawj qhov tseem ceeb yuav tsum nyob ntawm tus neeg raug tsim txom, thiab koj tuaj yeem hais qhia tus biter tias lawv cov kev ua rau lwm tus raug mob.

3. Qhia lawv cov kev los qhia lawv tus kheej

Cov menyuam yaus feem ntau tom vim lawv tsis tuaj yeem tham lossis qhia lawv tus kheej zoo (lossis txhua). Thaum lawv npau taws los sis ntshai los yog zoo siab, qee zaum lawv qhia qhov kev xav zoo no los ntawm kev mus rau tom.

Yog koj tus menyuam me hnub nyoog txaus lawm, hais kom lawv siv lawv cov lus es tsis txhob tom nws. Piv txwv li, koj tus menyuam yuav tom tus phooj ywg uas sim ua khoom ua si. Txhawm rau zam kev tom, qhia koj tus menyuam me kom qhia cov neeg ua si "tsis muaj" lossis "nres" thaum twg tsis mus.

Yog tias qhov no tsis ua haujlwm thiab koj tus menyuam pheej tom, tom nws los ntawm qhov xwm txheej. Kev poob lub sijhawm mus ua si nrog lawv cov phooj ywg tuaj yeem ua lub txiaj ntsig kom pab lawv nco qab siv lawv cov lus tom ntej.

Yog tias koj tsis tuaj yeem tshem lawv tawm ntawm qhov xwm txheej, nws zoo tshaj yog ua tib zoo saib xyuas kom koj tuaj yeem hais tawm sai sai thiab tiv thaiv lwm qhov kev yoov tom.

4. Sijhawm ua tiav

Thaum yoov tom, koj tuaj yeem sim sijhawm. Rau qhov no mus ua haujlwm, li cas los xij, koj yuav tsum zoo ib yam.

Qhov no suav nrog kev tso koj tus menyuam rau sijhawm txhua lub sij hawm lawv tom, kom lawv paub tias tom tau muaj kev rau txim. Raws li ntev npaum li cas lawv yuav tsum nyob hauv lub sijhawm, ib qho kev pom zoo yog 1 feeb rau txhua xyoo ntawm hnub nyoog.

Ib tus menyuam muaj ob xyoos yuav tau txais sijhawm nyob hauv 2 feeb, hos tus menyuam mos uas muaj tsib xyoos yuav tau sijhawm nyob hauv 5 feeb.

Nco ntsoov tias lub sijhawm so tsis tas yuav yog kev xav txog kev qhuab qhia. Lawv tsuas yog txoj hauv kev coj tus me nyuam tawm ntawm qhov xwm txheej uas tau ua rau tom thiab ua rau lawv lub siab nqig. Nws tseem ua rau lawv los ntawm kev tom tam sim ntawd. Qhov no tuaj yeem ua kom yooj yim txawm tias thawj zaug menyuam yaus tom.

5. Ua qauv coj tus cwj pwm zoo

Pab koj tus me nyuam kawm kom paub qhov yam dab tsi tsim nyog los ntawm kev coj ua rau lawv. Thaum lawv ua qee yam xws li txeeb ib qho khoom ua si lossis ntaus, maj mam hais “Kuv tsis nyiam qhov ntawd” thaum lawv coj mus rau qhov coj tus cwj pwm zoo.

Koj kuj yuav xav nyeem cov phau ntawv uas qhia txog kev coj ua kev ntxhov siab zoo, xws li “Tsis Tom” los ntawm Karen Katz lossis “Calm-Down Time” los ntawm Elizabeth Verdick.

Dab tsis ua

Qee tus neeg yuav zam tus me nyuam tom nws, vim li ntawd lawv thiaj pom tias nws xav li cas. Txawm li cas los xij, tsis muaj pov thawj txhawb qhov ua tau zoo ntawm hom no.

Tsis tas li ntawd, xav txog yuav ua li cas nws xa cov lus sib xyaw. Vim li cas nws tsis zoo rau lawv tom tab sis lees txais rau koj tom? Hloov chaw, tsom mus rau lwm qhov hauv paus kom tsis txhob tom ntxiv lawm.

Vim li cas cov me nyuam yaus tom

Yog lawm, kev tom yog ib tus yam ntxwv mob thaum yau. Txawm li cas los xij, lub laj thawj ntawm kev tsim tus cwj pwm tom yuav txawv ntawm tus menyuam mus rau lwm tus.

Thawj qhov yuav tsum nco ntsoov yog tias cov menyuam me tsis tuaj yeem qhia lawv tus kheej zoo li cov menyuam yaus thiab cov laus tuaj yeem muaj peev xwm ua tau. Tau hais tias lawv tsis tshua muaj kev sib txuas lus, qee zaum lawv nyiam tom kom zoo li txoj kev tso lawv txoj kev npau taws thiab chim siab, lossis txawm tias muaj kev xyiv fab lossis kev hlub.

Qhov xwm zoo yog tias kev tom yog luag ib qho teeb meem ib ntus. Nws pab tau zoo dua thaum menyuam dhau los ua neeg laus thiab kawm paub kev tswj tus kheej thiab kev sib txuas lus zoo dua.

Nws tseem tseem ceeb kom ceev faj txog lwm qhov laj thawj uas yog vim li cas me nyuam yaus yuav tom.

Cov menyuam yaus thiab menyuam yaus tuaj yeem tom yog lawv tshaib plab, rog, lossis ntxhov siab dhau lawm.

Lwm cov menyuam tsuas qog ua raws li lawv pom lwm tus menyuam ua. Yog li ntawd yog tias muaj ib tus menyuam yaus hauv qhov chaw zov me nyuam uas tom, tsis txhob ceeb yog koj tus me nyuam sim hauv tsev.

Thiab qhov tseeb, qee tus menyuam yaus tom mus kom tau txais kev mloog, txhawb kev tawm tsam, lossis sim lawv thaj tsam.

Koj yuav ua li cas tiv thaiv tus menyuam tsis tau tom?

Txawm hais tias kev tom yog qhov teeb meem ib txwm muaj thaum yau, nws yog ib qho teeb meem txawm li cas los xij.

Yog tias koj tswj tsis tau nws tus kheej, koj yuav ua rau koj tus menyuam raug teeb meem lossis raug ncaws tawm ntawm chaw zov menyuam thiab chaw ua si - ntau dua yog li lawv ua rau lwm tus menyuam mob.

Nws yuav siv li ob peb hnub lossis ob peb lub lim tiam, tabsis nws muaj ntau txoj hauv kev los tiv thaiv kev tom ua ntej nws yuav tshwm sim.

Saib qauv

Hauv lwm lo lus, koj tus menyuam puas noj rau qee lub sijhawm? Tom qab soj ntsuam koj tus menyuam, koj yuav pom tias lawv tom thaum lawv nkees. Yog tias qhov no, txiav lub sijhawm ua si luv luv yog tias koj tus menyuam qhia pom tias nws nkees.

Cov qauv yuav yog lawv feem ntau tom ib tus neeg, tom thaum lub sijhawm hloov chaw xws li los ntawm kev ua si mus rau cov haujlwm tsawg dua li tsis txaus siab, lossis thaum twg lawv hnov ​​loj. Paub dab tsi ua ntej ntawm kev tom tuaj yeem pab koj nrog qhov laj thawj ua ntej yuav pib tom.

Muab lwm yam kev xaiv

Txawm hais tias lawv lub hnub nyoog yau, nws yog ib lub tswv yim zoo los qhia cov me nyuam me lwm txoj kev los tswj lawv cov kev ntxhov siab. Ua rau lawv tus cwj pwm ntawm kev hais tias "tsis kam" lossis "nres" thaum lawv tsis nyiam qee yam. Qhov no pab cov menyuam tsis yog tsim kho kev paub lus xwb tab sis kuj tswj tau tus kheej.

Ib zaug ntxiv, yog tias koj ntseeg tias koj tus menyuam tom vim tias lawv tab tom zom zaws thiab xav kom tus kheej ntxuav nws, muab lub nplhaib rau lawv teething. Thiab, muab khoom noj txom ncauj thaum koj tus me nyuam tshaib plab los yog zoo li tus mob teething yuav pab txo qhov teeb meem tom vim qhov tsis xis nyob.

Siv qhov cuab lub zog txhawb

Qee tus menyuam yaus pib tom los uas yog txoj hauv kev kom tau txais kev saib xyuas tshwj xeeb - thiab qee zaum nws ua haujlwm. Qhov teeb meem yog qee tus menyuam me pib koom cov kev tom nrog kev mloog, thiab lawv tseem muaj tus cwj pwm.

Nws yuav pab tau kev txhawb nqa zoo. Yog tias koj muab nqi zog rau koj cov menyuam nrog qhuas rau qhov teb nrog ib qho xwm txheej nrog lawv cov lus thiab siv zog tswj tus kheej, lawv yuav tau nrhiav kev saib xyuas zoo.

Siv cov kev txhawb zog zoo li cov ntawv nplaum niaj hnub, qhov uas txhua hnub uas tsis tau tom lawv lub txiaj ntsig, tuaj yeem ua qhov muaj zog txhawb rau qee tus menyuam yau.

Qee zaum yoojyim lees paub lawv lub dag zog nrog kev qhuas (Nyeem: “Kuv zoo siab uas koj tau siv koj cov lus ntawm peb cov hnub ua si! Ua haujlwm tau zoo!”) Yog txhua qhov kev txhawb nqa uas lawv xav hais los ntawm kev tom.

Yog tias koj tus menyuam raug tom yuav ua phem rau lawv qhov chaw zov menyuam, tham nrog tus neeg zov menyuam thiab piav qhia cov tswv yim koj siv hauv tsev. Saib seb puas yog chaw zov menyuam tuaj yeem siv cov tswv yim no thiab ua haujlwm nrog koj kom tau nyob ntev thaum koj tus menyuam tab tom saib xyuas.

Thaum mus ntsib kws kho mob

Kev tom yog qhov teeb meem ua rau mob siab, tab sis feem ntau nws yog ib ntus xwb, uas ntau tus me nyuam me tawm ntawm cov hnub nyoog li ntawm peb lossis plaub xyoos. Yog li, kev coj tus cwj pwm tsis tu ncua tom qab lub hnub nyoog no tuaj yeem yog qhov cim ntawm lwm qhov teeb meem, tej zaum muaj teeb meem hauv tsev kawm ntawv lossis teeb meem cwj pwm.

Tham nrog koj tus menyuam, sab laj rau cov neeg saib xyuas menyuam, thiab sab laj nrog koj tus kws kho mob txog qhov teeb meem kom tau txais kev qhia.

Nqa Nyiaj

Kev tom yog ib qho ntawm qhov tsawg kawg uas ntxim nyiam uas menyuam yaus muaj peev xwm tsim tau, thiab nws tseem ceeb uas yuav tau daws qhov teeb meem no sai li sai tau thaum nws pib. Koj tuaj yeem taw koj tus menyuam txoj hauv kev thiab pab lawv nkag siab - txawm tias thaum me me - tias kev tom raug mob thiab tsis raug cai.