3 Kev sib tham koj yuav tsum muaj ua ntej 'Kuv Ua'

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• Kev sib tham "Social Life".
• Qhov "Peb Yuav Kawg Qhov Twg?" Kev sib tham
• Kev sib tham "Kids"
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Nws tshwm sim sai. Nag hmo koj tau txiav nws cov ntawv nrog koj cov phooj ywg thiab sib ntsib hnub thib peb, thiab hnub no koj ob leeg sib koom ib chav. Koj ob leeg paub tias koj tab tom mus rau qhov twg-yoj!

Tab sis ua ntej koj yuav nqa mus, nws yog lub sij hawm los tham txog ob peb yam uas tsis zoo li tsim nyog coj los thaum koj nyuam qhuav sib tham. Vim li cas? "Koj yuav xav tias koj nyob rau tib nplooj ntawv, lossis koj yuav muaj peev xwm ua cov haujlwm no tawm ntawm txoj kev, tab sis qhov kev xav ntawd tau ua rau muaj kev sib yuav tsis zoo," ceeb toom Karen Sherman, Ph.D., ib tus kws kho kev puas siab ntsws kev sib raug zoo thiab tus sau Kev sib yuav Khawv koob! Nrhiav Nws, Khaws Cia, thiab Ua Kom Kawg.

Yog li tsis txhob muab tso rau lwm hnub: Muaj peb qhov kev sib tham no tam sim no los xyuas kom muaj kev zoo siab mus ib txhis tom qab.

Kev sib tham "Social Life".

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Yog tias nws yog npauj npaim kev sib raug zoo thiab koj yog tus neeg nyob hauv tsev ntau dua-lossis nws yog txhua yam txog kev ua haujlwm-lub neej sib npaug thaum koj yog tus neeg ua haujlwm-peb muaj qee qhov xov xwm tsis zoo: Tsis txhob cia siab tias ib qho yuav hloov pauv vim tias koj raug ntaus , raws li Sherman. "Kuv tham nrog ntau khub niam txiv uas xav tias ib lossis lwm tus yuav daws kev sib raug zoo, lossis yuav hloov kho nws tus cwj pwm tom qab sib yuav. Tab sis qhov ntawd feem ntau tsis tshwm sim," nws piav qhia. Tsis txhob txhawj xeeb-muaj kev daws teeb meem: Nws yog txhua yam hais txog kev sib cav.

Tsuas yog nco ntsoov: "Peb yuav tsum tham" yog plaub lo lus uas cov txiv neej ntxub tshaj, Sherman piav qhia. Yog li hla ib qho ua ntej thiab tsuas yog nug nws yog tias nws pom nws txoj haujlwm lossis sijhawm sib tham hloov thaum koj tau sib yuav. Yog tias nws hais dab tsi rau koj tsis haum nrog-zoo li koj xav tau, tej zaum nws yuav pom zoo tawm mus ib hmos hauv ib lub lim tiam, lossis koj yuav cog lus tias yuav tsum tsis ua haujlwm rau hnub so. Koj ob leeg yuav tsum txaus siab ua nyiaj pub dawb, Sherman hais.

Qhov "Peb Yuav Kawg Qhov Twg?" Kev sib tham

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Yog li koj tau tsiv mus rau ib lub nroog tshiab rau kev ua haujlwm thiab tom qab ntawd koj tau ntsib Mr. Zoo kawg. Qee lub sijhawm, koj yuav ntsib nrog kev txiav txim siab: Nyob twj ywm, tawm mus, lossis taub hau rau qhov tawg, Sherman hais. Thiab ua ntej nug nws seb nws pom dab tsi, koj yuav tsum paub dab tsi koj xav. Ua ntej, nug koj tus kheej, "Kuv xav nyob qhov twg 5 lossis 10 xyoo txij tam sim no, thiab qhov ntawd tseem ceeb npaum li cas rau kuv?" Sherman qhia. Thiab yog tias koj xav nyob ze koj tsev neeg-lossis xav tias nws yuav xav ua-hais li ntawd! Tom qab tag nrho, yog tias koj nyob hauv New York-thiab koj loj hlob hauv Brooklyn thaum nws tau loj hlob hauv Midwest-koj yuav xav tias "nyob hauv tsev" thaum nws muaj lub tswv yim sib txawv txog qhov koj yuav nyob hauv koj li 30s thiab 40s, Sherman hais .

Kev sib tham "Kids"

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Muaj qee lub ntsiab lus tseem ceeb heev rau kev seev cev ib puag ncig, Sherman hais. Nov yog ib tus ntawm lawv. Thiab yog tias koj cov lus sib tham txog cov menyuam yaus tsis tau mus ntxiv dua li qhov kev pom zoo tias koj ob leeg xav kom cov me nyuam ib hnub sai sai, qhov ntawd tsis txaus. Tom qab tag nrho, yog tias koj paub ntau npaum li cas koj xav tau, thiab xav pib sim sai dua tom qab, cov ntsiab lus no tuaj yeem yog cov pos loj hauv koj txoj kev sib yuav hluas yog tias koj tsis pom qhov muag, Sherman hais. Thaum nws yuav tsis zoo li xav tau, nws tsis ua li cas-thiab muaj txiaj ntsig-los tham txog qhov tshwj xeeb, Sherman hais txog. Tsis txhob hnov ​​​​qab tham txog seb koj yuav tsa koj cov menyuam li cas - yam xws li kev qhuab qhia, tsev kawm ntawv, lossis kev ntseeg yog qhov tseem ceeb. Ua ntej koj nug, saib nws tsev neeg thiab kev txhawb nqa-ob leeg muab lub tswv yim zoo ntawm yam nws xav tau (lossis tsis xav tau!), Sherman pom zoo.

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