6 Lub Tswv Yim Kom Tham Nrog Koj Cov Menyuam Txog Porn Lia Nrog Txoj Kev Sib Deev

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• 1. Tsim lub hauv paus uas koj thiab koj tus menyuam tuaj yeem tham txog cov khoom no
• 2. Qhia cov porn thaum ntxov tshaj li qhov koj xav tias koj yuav tsum muaj
• 3. Ua kom koj lub suab tseem ceeb tab sis raug xwm txheej
• 4. Cia lawv nug cov lus nug
• 5. Qhia cov ntsiab lus hais thiab pom zoo cia
• 6. Qhia tawm cov kev pab ntxiv
• Cov chaw muab kev qhia txog kev sib deev qhia rau cov me nyuam
  
• Cov lus qhia no tuaj yeem pab ua kom qhov kev sib tham muaj txiaj ntsig zoo rau koj ob leeg

Peb suav nrog cov khoom uas peb xav tias tseem ceeb rau peb cov nyeem. Yog tias koj yuav los ntawm cov txuas hauv nplooj ntawv no, peb yuav khwv tau nyiaj me me. Ntawm no yog peb cov txheej txheem.

Tau hais tias cov niam txiv tau muab lawv cov menyuam nkag mus rau thev naus laus zis thiab lub vev xaib thaum hnub nyoog ntxov (ib qho kev tshawb fawb pom tias nyob rau nruab nrab, cov menyuam tau txais lawv lub xov tooj tshiab thaum muaj hnub nyoog 10 xyoo), menyuam nrhiav thiab saib porn online thaum hnub nyoog yau yog qhov zam tsis tau, hais tias acclaimed indie cov neeg ua yeeb yaj kiab Erika Lust, tus tswv thiab tus tsim ntawm Erika Lust Films thiab XConfessions.com.

"Vim yog qhov xwmtxheej hauv internet, txawm tias ib tug menyuam yaus tsuas yog tshawb nrhiav cov duab lossis qhia txog kev tshawb fawb ntawm lub cev, lub cev ntawm lub cev, lossis seb tus menyuam tsim los, porn yog ib txwm rau tus lej lossis ib tus naj npawb ob qhov kev tshawb nrhiav," nws hais.

Txog nws tus kheej, Shadeen Francis, LMFT, tus kws saib xyuas kev sib yuav thiab tsev neeg uas sau cov ntsiab lus qhia txog kev sib deev hauv tsev kawm ntawv theem pib thiab theem siab, hais tias thaum muaj hnub nyoog 11 feem ntau cov menyuam yaus tau pom qee yam ntsiab lus kev sib deev hauv online.

Hmoov tsis zoo, kev kawm kev sib deev thiab porn tsis tau ua lus txhais. Francis tau hais tias "Porn tuaj yeem siv los ua kev sib deev kev kawm, tab sis nws yog npaj ua kev lom zem rau cov laus, tsis yog kev kawm," Francis hais. Thaum tsis muaj kev kawm paub txog kev sib deev lossis sib tham tsis tu ncua hauv tsev txog kev pw ua ke, cov menyuam tuaj yeem sib deev nrog kev sib deev thiab sib deev hauv cov lus hais hauv cov duab liab qab feem ntau.

Tias yog vim li cas Francis ntxhov siab qhov tseem ceeb ntawm cov niam txiv thiab cov saib xyuas tham nrog lawv cov menyuam txog kev sib deev thiab txog porn.

Nws hais tias, “Cov niam txiv ntau dua yuav thab lawv cov menyuam txoj kev kawm, lawv muaj peev xwm qhia tau kev noj qab haus huv thiab txiaj ntsig zoo los tawm tsam cov ntaub ntawv tsis raug, tsis lav thiab tsis raug cai uas lawv tuaj yeem kawm hauv ntiaj teb,”

Tseem, ua niam txiv nws tuaj yeem ua kom yooj yim dhau mus qhia cov ntsiab lus porn nrog koj tus menyuam. Nrog qhov xav hauv siab, peb tso ua ke phau ntawv no rau cov niam txiv rau kev sib tham nrog menyuam txog porn.

Ua raws li cov lus qhia no txhawm rau sib tham txog kev sib deev-zoo thiab kom xis li muaj tau - rau neb ob leeg.

1. Tsim lub hauv paus uas koj thiab koj tus menyuam tuaj yeem tham txog cov khoom no

Lees paub, nrog koj tus me nyuam tham txog porn tuaj yeem ua pa-racking.

Tab sis, yog tias koj thiab koj tus menyuam tau sib tham tsis tu ncua txog kev sib deev, kev pom zoo, kev lees paub lub cev, kev sib deev nyab xeeb, kev txaus siab, cev xeeb tub, thiab kev noj qab haus huv thiab kev noj qab haus huv zoo, cov nyiaj txiag ntawm ib qho kev sib tham ntawm tus kheej muaj qis dua.

Nws hais ntxiv tas li txog qhov kev siv dag zog uas muaj peev xwm ua kom muaj kev sib tham txog "porn tham," nws hais tas li muaj kev sib tham no yog qhov tseem ceeb rau kev muab koj tus menyuam los ua lub hauv paus ntawm kev paub txog kev sib daj sib deev - kev xyaum tshwj xeeb, vim tias kev kawm kev sib deev hauv tsev kawm ntawv t feem ntau muab nws.

Ntxiv rau, qhov no yuav pab txhawb txoj kev xav zoo li qhib siab tshiab, yog li thaum lawv ua yuam kev lossis pom porn, lawv yuav muaj feem ntau los rau koj yog tias lawv muaj lus nug.

2. Qhia cov porn thaum ntxov tshaj li qhov koj xav tias koj yuav tsum muaj

Txog rau saum no, cov kws paub pom zoo lub sijhawm zoo tshaj plaws los tham nrog koj cov menyuam txog kev porn yog ua ntej lawv pom kiag tiag.Txoj kev ntawd, koj tuaj yeem siv cov duab uas lawv yuav pom thiab pab txo qis lub tswb, kev qias neeg lossis kev tsis meej pem lawv yuav xav tias yog lawv pom porn tsis muaj yav tas los tsis muaj kev paub txog tias cov khoom muaj nyob hauv thawj qhov chaw, hais tias Francis.

Lust taw qhia tias kev sib tham nyob ib ncig ntawm porn yuav tsum tau tshwm sim ua ntej yuav pib tiav nkauj tiav nraug.

"Cov niam txiv feem ntau xav tias hnub nyoog 13 lossis 14 yog lub hnub nyoog tsim nyog los muab nws, tab sis cov lus qhia txog lub ncauj lus yuav tsum yog plaub lossis tsib xyoos ua ntej - lossis tiag tiag thaum twg niam thiab txiv muab cov menyuam tsis muaj kev saib xyuas rau hauv is taws nem," hais tias.

Thaum koj tham nrog koj cov menyuam, nco ntsoov tias koj tsis yog qhia lawv tias qee yam hu ua porn. Francis koj kuj tseem piav qhia tias nws yog dab tsi thiab tsis yog, thiab hais txog nws nyob rau hauv kev sib tham loj dua txog kev pom zoo, kev txaus siab, thiab lub zog, hais tias Francis.

3. Ua kom koj lub suab tseem ceeb tab sis raug xwm txheej

Yog tias koj nyaum heev dhau lossis txhawj xeeb, koj yuav tau txuas lub zog ntawd rau koj tus menyuam, uas yuav ua rau lawv tsis muaj kev cuam tshuam thiab muaj feem yuav kaw ib txoj hauv kev rau kev sib tham ntawm koj.

Francis hais tias "Tsis txhob txaj muag koj tus menyuam yog tias koj xav tias lossis kawm tias lawv tau pom porn," Hloov siab, nkag siab tias kev xav paub txog kev sib daj sib deev yog lub ntuj tsim ntawm kev loj hlob.

Nws tau hais tias "Raws li tus kws kho mob ua haujlwm nrog cov neeg ib puag ncig lawv kev txhawj xeeb txog kev sib deev, nws yog qhov tseeb tias kev txaj muag thiab cov lus tsis sib deev muaj feem cuam tshuam rau tib neeg txoj kev xav txog tus kheej, kev nyiam romantic, kev mob hlwb, thiab kev xaiv tus khub," nws hais.

Yog li, tsis txhob mus cuag qhov kev sib tham tam li “tus qhuab qhia” lossis “tub ceev xwm internet,” koj xav mus ua nws tus kws qhia thiab tus saib xyuas.

Thaum lub sijhawm sib tham yuav tsum qhia meej tias cov neeg ua yeeb yaj kiab yog rau cov neeg laus thiab qhia txog kev sib daj sib deev ntawm lawv tus kheej lossis lwm tus menyuam yaus yog suav tias yog menyuam yaus saib duab liab qab, Francis hais tias, “Yog tias koj tsuas hais tias nws tsis raug cai lossis cia hauv koj lub tsev, cov menyuam tuaj yeem ua rau txaus ntshai, txaj muag, lossis xav paub ntxiv. "

Lust hais tias nws tuaj yeem pab pib kev sib tham los ntawm kev lees paub tias kev sib daj sib deev thiab kev sib daj sib deev yog kiag li qub thiab ib txwm muaj, thiab qhia lawv tias koj tus kheej xav li cas txog lub ntsiab porn.

Koj tuaj yeem hais tias, “Thaum kuv pom cov duab liab qab tawm ua rau kuv xav tias kuv tu siab, vim tias ntau ntawm cov duab no qhia cov poj niam raug rau txim. Tab sis pw ua ke uas kuv muaj thiab vam tias koj yuav muaj ib hnub yog kev paub ntawm kev lom zem, tsis rau txim. "

Lwm qhov chaw nkag? Siv ua piv txwv qhia. "Piav qhia tias ib yam li Superman ua si los ntawm tus neeg ua yeeb yam uas tsis muaj lub zog loj hauv lub neej tiag tiag, cov hnub qub porn hauv cov yeeb yaj kiab no yog cov neeg ua yeeb yam sib deev, tab sis qhov ntawd tsis yog kev sib deev tshwm sim hauv lub neej tiag tiag," Lust qhia.

4. Cia lawv nug cov lus nug

Ib qho kev sib tham zoo li no yog qhov zoo tshaj yog tias: muaj kev sib tham. Thiab rau qee yam ua kev sib tham, yuav tsum muaj qee qhov rov qab-thiab-los.

Qhov ntawd txhais tau tias lees tias lawv xav paub ib ncig ntawm kev sib deev yog qhov ib txwm ua, tom qab ntawd muab chaw rau lawv los tham txog nws thiab nug cov lus nug.

Thaum lawv nug cov lus nug, "Kho tag nrho lawv cov lus nug uas siv tau, thiab teb nrog cov ntaub ntawv txaus kom teb tau tag nrho tab sis tsis yog ntau qhov koj ntxhov siab," Francis hais. Lawv tsis tas yuav muaj qhov hais tawm, tab sis lawv xav tau qhov tseeb, lub cev-zoo, thiab qhov tseem ceeb, cov lus qhia zoo siab.

Tsis paub cov lus teb yog OK “Koj tsis tas yuav yog ib tug kws muaj txuj zoo. Koj tsuas yog xav tau muab qhov chaw nyab xeeb rau kev sib tham, "Francis hais. Yog li, yog tias koj raug nug qee yam uas koj tsis paub, hais ncaj qha rau koj tias koj tsis paub, tab sis koj yuav pom thiab taug qab.

Sab flip, tsis txhob nug koj tus menyuam ntau cov lus nug. Qhov no yog ib lub sijhawm zoo rau lawv los kawm ntawm koj, tsis yog rau koj hais kom lawv ua dabtsi thiab tsis paub txog, lossis lawv muaj lossis tsis tau pom dua.

Francis kuj tseem pom zoo kom tsis txhob nug koj tus menyuam vim li cas lawv xav paub yam. Nws hais tias "Qhov kev nug no tuaj yeem kaw menyuam yaus, vim tias lawv yuav tsis xav qhia qhov chaw uas lawv tau hnov ​​lossis vim li cas lawv thiaj xav paub,"

Thiab tsis tas li, lawv yuav tsis muaj lub laj thawj tob; tej zaum lawv yuav nug vim tias lawv tau nug.

5. Qhia cov ntsiab lus hais thiab pom zoo cia

Ntau li koj yuav xav tau chaw nyob koj cov menyuam los ntawm kev tsis ncaj ncees thiab kev tsim txom ntawm kev tsim txom hauv lub ntiaj teb, raws li Francis, qhov no yog lub sijhawm zoo los pib piav txog tej yam xws li misogyny, kev ntxub ntxaug rau haiv neeg, ua rau lub cev txaj muag, thiab muaj peev xwm, hais tias Francis. Nws hais tias "Kev sib tham porn yog ib feem ntawm kev sib tham loj dua thiab muaj lub hom phiaj loj dua," nws hais.

Yog li, koj yuav siv qhov no los ua lub sijhawm uas tsis yog txhua lub cev zoo li tus neeg ua yeeb yam porn lossis tus neeg ua yeeb yam, thiab qhov ntawd tsis ua li cas, Francis hais.

Francis tau hais tias "Qhov no tuaj yeem pab cov tub ntxhais hluas khaws cia los ntawm kev sib piv rau lawv tus kheej lub cev loj hlob thiab tawm mus rau ntau qhov chaw lawv xav tau qhov lawv xav tau thiab lawv cov koom tes yav tom ntej yuav zoo li cas, feem ntau, thiab zoo li thaum sib deev,"

Lossis, koj tuaj yeem siv qhov no los ua lub sijhawm los tham nrog lawv txog kev lom zem, kev tiv thaiv, kev pom zoo, lub cev thiab plaub hau, thiab lwm yam.

Yog tias koj tus menyuam muaj lus nug tshwj xeeb, qhov ntawd tuaj yeem yog tus taw kev taw qhia kom paub qhov tseeb qhov kev sib tham. Francis hais tias, "Koj tuaj yeem muaj kev sib tham ntxiv yog tias koj kov tsis tau txhua yam," Francis hais.

6. Qhia tawm cov kev pab ntxiv

Ntxiv nrog rau kev piav qhia qhov kev poob qis ntawm kev tso tawm porn, suav cov lus koj tus menyuam yuav pom lossis pom nyob rau hauv porn yog qhov tseem ceeb.

Vim li cas? Vim tias kev sib tham thiab cov khoom siv kev kawm uas pab txhawb qhov muaj nuj nqis ib puag ncig xws li kev lees txais, kev pom zoo, kev lom zem, thiab kev tsis tuaj yeem yuav pab koj tus menyuam nrhiav cov duab liab qab uas lawv ntsib, nws hais.

Francis hais tias "Tsis kam khaws cov cuab yeej no tsis pab cov hluas xaiv cov kev xaiv zoo dua thiab zoo dua, thiab nws yuav tsis txwv lawv kom tsis txhob koom nrog cov kev coj ua pheej hmoo," Francis hais.

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Tom qab ntawd, thaum koj cov menyuam loj zuj zus tuaj, koj tuaj yeem tham txog lwm txoj hauv kev los ntawm kev saib duab liab qab, nrog rau cov ntaub ntawv hais txog poj niam xws li poj niam nyiam poj niam lossis porn, erotica, thiab ntau dua, hais tias Francis.

“Koj tsis tas yuav muab cov ntaub ntawv qhia rau lawv. Tab sis yog tias lawv yuav mus ua neeg yuav khoom, pab lawv kom muaj kev paub txog cov neeg siv khoom, "nws hais.

Cov lus qhia no tuaj yeem pab ua kom qhov kev sib tham muaj txiaj ntsig zoo rau koj ob leeg

Tawm hauv cov menyuam yaus los kawm txog kev sib daj sib deev thiab kev ua porn nyob ntawm lawv tus kheej nplooj tons ntawm chav rau kev pheej hmoo lawv tsis tau teeb tsa kev qhia, yog li tham nrog koj cov menyuam txog porn yog qhov tseem ceeb.

Yog tias koj muaj kev txaj muag, nco ntsoov tias, raws li Francis, "Koj tus thib ib lub hom phiaj yog muab qhov chaw nyab xeeb rau lawv nug lawv txog porn, dab tsi uas lawv yuav pom nyob hauv internet, thiab ntau dua," nws hais.

Thiab nco ntsoov: Nws yeej tsis tau dhau los lossis ntau dhau los kom muaj cov kev sib tham no.

Gabrielle Kassel yog ib tug kws paub txog kev noj qab nyob zoo hauv New York thiab tus kws qhia CrossFit Theem 1. Nws tau dhau los ua tus sawv ntxov, sim qhov kev sib tw tag nrho Whole30, thiab noj mov, haus cawv, txhuam nrog, txhuam nrog, thiab da dej nrog hluav ncaig - txhua yam ntawm kev sau xov xwm. Hauv nws lub sijhawm muaj kev ywj pheej, nws tuaj yeem pom nyeem cov ntawv nyeem pab tus kheej, rooj zaum - nias, lossis dhia seev cev. Ua raws li nws ntawm Instagram.