Dab tsi 'Kev Hlub Yog Qhov Muag' tuaj yeem qhia koj txog koj tus kheej kev sib raug zoo IRL

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• 1. Kev sib txuas ntawm kev xav yog qhov tseem ceeb ... tab sis yog li kev nyiam lub cev.
• 2. Kev sib deev yog ib feem tseem ceeb ntawm kev sib deev.
• 3. Kev ncaj ncees ua ntej yog txoj hauv kev mus.
• 4. Peb tsim ntau yam ntawm peb tus kheej cov teeb meem hauv kev sib raug zoo.
• Ntsuam xyuas rau

Cia peb ua siab ncaj, feem ntau qhov tseeb TV qhia peb paub dab tsi tsis ua hauv peb tus kheej lub neej. Nws yog qhov yooj yim zoo nkauj los zaum hauv cov pajamas uas muaj daim npog ntsej muag, saib qee tus neeg poob los ntawm kev sib tham thiab xav tias, 'Kuv yuav tsis ua qhov ntawd'. Tab sis, qhov tseeb, TV tiag tiag yog qhov ua tau zoo dua qub, petri-tais version ntawm peb tus kheej lub neej. (Thiab nws tuaj yeem ua rau koj muaj kev nkag siab zoo rau lwm tus.)

Puas yog nws tsim tawm? Yog lawm Puas yog nws tseem muaj tiag thiab cuam tshuam? Yog lawm. Txwv tsis pub, peb yuav tsis saib nws.

Peb pom peb tus kheej, peb cov phooj ywg, tsev neeg, thiab cov neeg koom tes hauv cov neeg lossis cov cim ntawm cov ntxaij vab tshaus TV. Yog li, thaum, paub tseeb tias "TV pov tseg" yog "kev lom zem ua txhaum" -lub siab ntawm nws zoo tshaj plaws, koj tseem tuaj yeem tawm ntawm koj lub rooj zaum me ntsis ntse dua li thaum koj plopped yog tias koj xav tau tiag tiag.

Cia peb xav txog Netflix qhov kev ua yeeb yam nrov tshaj plaws hauv TV, Kev Hlub Yog Qhov Muag Tsis Pom. Cov yeeb yam pib nrog ib pawg ntawm cov txiv neej thiab cov poj niam nrawm sib tham hauv "pods" - tsis txhob sib ntsib thiab tsuas yog hnov ​​​​ib lub suab los ntawm sab nraud, nrog lub hom phiaj ntawm kev tsim kom muaj kev sib txuas lus raws li kev sib tham, kev nyiam lub cev thiab chemistry tawm. ntawm qhov sib npaug (tsawg kawg thaum xub thawj).

Cov yeeb yam poses lo lus nug, "Puas kev hlub dig muag?" nug cov koom nrog kom nqes leej twg lawv muaj kev sib txuas zoo tshaj plaws nrog rau thaum kawg xaiv ib tus neeg, poob rau hauv kev hlub pom tsis pom, thiab tom qab ntawd tshaj tawm cov lus pom mus tas li lossis lees txais ib qho. Yog, thov sib yuav ... dhau ntawm phab ntsa! Thaum koom nrog cov neeg sib tw thaum kawg tuaj yeem pom thiab cuam tshuam nrog ib leeg.

Tsis txhob dag: Thaum kuv hnov ​​qhov xwm txheej no, kuv tau tig kuv lub qhov muag. Nws suab zoo li Txij Nkawm Thaum Pom Thawj Zaug ntsib Bachelor ntsib Kwv Tij. Txawm li cas los xij, txij li kuv yog tus tswv tsev koom nrog ntawm Bachelor franchise rov hais dua podcast thiab kev sib raug zoo kws kho mob, ntau tus neeg pib sau ntawv rau kuv nug txog Kev Hlub Yog Qhov Muag Tsis Pom.

"Koj xav li cas txog Giannina tus cwj pwm rau Damian?"

"Tos, koj xav tias Carlton daws qhov xwm txheej ntawd li cas?"

"Koj puas xav tias Jessica puas tau muaj kev xav zoo rau Mark?

Kuv xav paub sai. (Gwyneth Paltrow qhov yeeb yam tshiab ntawm Netflix yog nplawm lub lauj kaub, ib yam.)

Yog li, tej zaum koj yuav xav tsis thoob tias koj tuaj yeem kawm tau dab tsi los ntawm kev ua yeeb yam nrog qhov kev npau taws heev los qhia koj lub neej tiag tiag. Cov lus teb? Me ntsis me ntsis, qhov tseeb. Nov yog plaub zaj lus qhia txhua tus tuaj yeem kawm txog kev sib raug zoo los ntawm Kev hlub yog qhov muag tsis pom:

1. Kev sib txuas ntawm kev xav yog qhov tseem ceeb ... tab sis yog li kev nyiam lub cev.

Txij thaum pib, Kev Hlub Yog Qhov Muag Tsis Pom nkawm niam txiv, Kelly Chase thiab Kenny Barnes, muaj kev sib txuas pob zeb khov kho, tab sis thaum lawv nkag mus rau hauv lub cev tiag tiag, Kelly hais tias Kenny zoo li nws tus nus tshaj li kev sib deev. Qhov no nres nws ntawm kev tshawb fawb txog kev sib deev nrog nws, uas yog hmoov tsis zoo.

Ib lo lus nug uas ua yeeb yam nug ntau dua - "Puas yog kev hlub dig muag?" - yog ib qho tseem ceeb uas yuav tsum xav txog. IRL, peb nug peb tus kheej cov lus nug no ib yam, nws tsuas yog suab txawv me ntsis. "Qhov twg tseem ceeb dua: kev xav txuas lossis lub cev sib txuas?" lossis "Puas yog nws zoo dua kom muaj kev sib txuas ntawm kev xav thiab tom qab ntawd tsim lub cev lossis pib nrog kev sib txuas ntawm lub cev thiab tsim cov kev xav?"

Qhov zoo tshaj, muaj ob qho tib si; Koj tau nyiam rau tus neeg lub cev lub cev, lawv tus yam ntxwv, thiab koj muaj kev sib daj sib deev uas koj tuaj yeem tsim. Tab sis, ua li cas yog tias ib qho ntawm cov ntsiab lus ploj lawm? Yuav ua li cas yog tias koj yeej hlub ib tug neeg tus cwj pwm, tab sis koj tsis muaj qhov ntawd * spark*? (Muaj feem cuam tshuam: 5 Yam Uas Txhua Tus Neeg Yuav Tsum Paub Txog Kev Sib Deev thiab Kev Yos Hav Zoov, Raws Li Kev Txheeb Xyuas Kev Txheeb Ze)

Thaum, koj yuav tsum tsis txhob nyuaj siab ua ib yam dab tsi uas koj tsis xav ua lossis tsis xis nyob, raws li tus kws kho mob poj niam, Kuv xav qhia kom tshawb xyuas seb lub cev/kev sib deev sib txuas zoo li cas ua ntej txiav txim siab tias nws tsis yog ua tau. Rau qee tus, qhov no tuaj yeem txhais tau tias yog kev sib deev kom pom tias nws zoo li cas ntawm lub cev thiab lub siab lub ntsws thiab rau lwm tus, qhov no tuaj yeem txhais tau yooj yim tshawb nrhiav kev sib raug zoo hauv kev sib tham lossis kov. Koj tuaj yeem hais meej li cas tias tsis muaj kev sib txuas ntawm lub cev thaum tsis muaj sijhawm los tsim ib qho?

2. Kev sib deev yog ib feem tseem ceeb ntawm kev sib deev.

Qhov txawv ntawm ob niam txiv uas muaj kev sib deev chemistry tam sim ntawd thiab ib qho uas tsis pom zoo los ntawm Kev Hlub Yog Qhov Muag Tsis Pom khub niam txiv Matt Barnett (aka Barnett) thiab Amber Pike piv rau qhov tau hais tseg Kelly thiab Kenny.

Yuav luag tam sim ntawd, Barnett thiab Amber tau rub lub cev ua ke, tsis muaj peev xwm tuav lawv txhais tes ntawm ib leeg. Qhov no, tau kawg, hnav mus rau qee qib raws li lub sijhawm mus, tab sis nws muab lub hauv paus rau qhov muaj peev xwm nyob ntev, lom zem, thiab txaus siab rau kev sib deev lub neej (tsuav yog muaj kev sib txuas lus zoo).

Qee tus neeg ntseeg tias yog tias muaj kev xav txuas nrog tam sim no, kev sib deev tsuas yog ua haujlwm los ntawm qhov ntawd. Qhov ntawd tsuas yog tsis muaj tseeb. Qee leej neeg yeej tsis sib deev tiag.

Tab sis, tsis txhob ntshai! Feem ntau cov teeb meem kev sib raug zoo tuaj yeem daws nrog kev sib txuas lus zoo thiab tej zaum kev pab ntawm tus kws kho mob poj niam txiv neej. Txawm hais tias tsis tshua muaj tshwm sim koj tuaj yeem ua xua rau koj tus khub cov phev, nws feem ntau yog cov plethora ntawm lwm yam uas ua rau navigating koj lub siab nyiam (lossis tsis muaj) nyuaj.

Xav tias: qhov sib txawv ntawm libido, kev sib txuas lus tsis zoo, kev nyiam sib txawv thiab cov tswv yim hais txog dab tsi ua rau lub neej kev sib deev "zoo". Txoj hauv kev zoo tshaj los tawm tsam txhua yam no yog kawm paub sib txuas lus tau zoo thiab kawm koj tus kheej lub cev thiab kev xav. Nws nyuaj heev rau kev sib txuas lus yam koj xav tau thiab nyiam thaum koj tsis paub qhov teb koj tus kheej.

Kev sib deev tsis yog txhua yam, tab sis nws yog ib feem loj ntawm kev sib raug zoo romantic. Koj tuaj yeem poob rau hauv kev hlub nrog ib tug neeg, muaj kev sib deev nruab nrab thiab ua haujlwm rau nws ua lub siab. Nws tsuas yog siv dag zog, ntawm ob tus tib neeg cov haujlwm - thiab kev cog lus ua haujlwm ua ke.

3. Kev ncaj ncees ua ntej yog txoj hauv kev mus.

Kev Hlub Yog Qhov Muag Tsis Pom ob peb Carlton Morton thiab Pob Zeb Diamond Jack tsoo nws tam sim hauv cov pods. Carlton tau npaj siab rau Diamon thaum nyob hauv cov pods, thiab nws tau txais, tab sis thaum lawv tau mus rau lawv qhov chaw sov so hauv 'lub ntiaj teb tiag', Cartlon tau lees paub rau nws tus fiancée tshiab tias nws yog bisexual - heev lub foob pob poob. tom qab kev thov, txoj cai?

Carlton mus piav qhia tias nws tau raug tsis pom zoo los ntawm cov poj niam yav dhau los tom qab qhia tias nws tau pw nrog thiab tau nyiam rau txiv neej thiab poj niam. Hmoov tsis zoo, thaum nws tsoo cov xov xwm no, Pob Zeb Diamond tsis ua raws cov xov xwm zoo. Nws tau tham txij li nws yuav ua dab tsi txawv, qhia Cov neeg, "Kuv yuav hloov txoj hauv kev ntawm nws. Kuv tau sim ua kom nkag siab zoo, tab sis kuv muaj lus nug vim kuv tsis tau nrog ib tug txiv neej bisexual."

Zaj lus qhia ntawm no yog muab koj daim npav tso rau ntawm lub rooj. Tsis muaj ib yam dab tsi kiag li nrog Carlton ua bisexual. Dab tsi yog qhov tsis yog khaws cov ntaub ntawv tseem ceeb txog koj tus kheej thiab thov kom siv lub neej nrog ib tus neeg yam tsis tau muab sijhawm rau lawv kom paub ua tiav koj.

Hauv lub ntiaj teb tiag, qhov no tuaj yeem tso tseg cov ntaub ntawv tseem ceeb txog koj kev sib deev, kev koom nrog nom tswv, nuj nqis, teeb meem hauv tsev neeg, kev xav deev lossis kinks ... nws tsis muaj teeb meem lub ncauj lus, tsuas yog ua siab ncaj -lub sijhawm.

Txawm hais tias koj ntsib hauv ib lub pod ntawm qhov teeb meem ntawm qhov tseeb TV qhia, ntawm ib lub bar, lossis ntawm kev sib tham app, kev ncaj ncees yeej ib txwm yog txoj cai zoo tshaj. Qhov no tsis txhais tau tias koj yuav tsum qhia tus khub muaj peev xwm txhua yam txog koj tus kheej hauv thawj 30 feeb, tab sis nws txhais tau tias koj yuav tsum ncaj ncees txog koj yog leej twg thiab koj xav tau dab tsi sai dua tom qab. Tsis yog koj xav paub ntau ntxiv txog koj hnub thib peb es tsis yog hnub thib peb xyoo uas koj tsis nyob hauv sync li koj xav?

4. Peb tsim ntau yam ntawm peb tus kheej cov teeb meem hauv kev sib raug zoo.

Kev hlub yog qhov muag tsis pom's, Jessica Batten thiab Mark Anthony Cuevas poob rau ib leeg sai sai, txawm tias Jessica tseem muaj kev xav rau Barnett, uas tau xaus nrog Amber. Ib qho ntawm cov ntsiab lus tseem ceeb ntawm Jessica thiab Mark txoj kev sib raug zoo yog qhov sib txawv ntawm 10 xyoo uas Jessica tsis tuaj yeem pom dhau.

Nws yog phau ntawv piv txwv ntawm kev tsim teeb meem hauv kev sib raug zoo thiab liam nws rau lwm tus neeg. Nws tau meej heev tias Jessica tsis xis nyob nrog qhov tseeb tias muaj kaum xyoo ntawm lawv cov hnub yug. Txawm li cas los xij, tsis txhob hais ntau li ntau thiab tham nrog nws nrog Mark, nws txuas ntxiv mus ua li cas lwm tus yuav pom lawv txoj kev sib raug zoo es tsis txhob muaj nws tus kheej tsis ruaj ntseg txog nws. Qhov kev txhawj xeeb no yog dab tsi (spoiler ceeb toom!) Thaum kawg coj mus rau kev tuag ntawm lawv kev sib raug zoo ... ntawm lub thaj, tsis tsawg

Yog tias koj pom ib tus neeg hluas dua, tham txog hnub nyoog sib txawv ua ke. Tham txog yuav ua li cas qhov sib txawv tuaj yeem cuam tshuam rau koj tam sim no thiab yav tom ntej. Tham txog kev txhawj xeeb lwm tus neeg yuav muaj raws li kev xav tsis zoo hauv zej zog thiab seb koj xav hais li cas rau lawv ua ke.

Peb tuaj yeem tsim teeb meem uas tsis muaj tiag thaum peb tsis xis nyob lossis tsis paub tseeb tias peb xav nyob hauv kev sib raug zoo. Jessica tau siv lub hnub nyoog sib txawv los ua pov thawj tias lawv kev sib raug zoo yuav tsis ua haujlwm, tsis yog hais yooj yim tias tej zaum nws tsis pom nws ntxim nyiam, tsis zoo siab, lossis tsis npaj siab ua.

Ntsuam xyuas rau