9 Txoj Hauv Kev Koj Yuav Tsum Ua Ntej Ua Ntej Ib Leeg Ntawm Lub Gym

Zoo Siab

• "Koj zoo siab heev!"
• "Kuv ntshai kawg li koj."
• "Huag, tsis muaj leej twg xav pom qhov ntawd! Koj yuav tsum tsis txhob hnav qhov ntawd."
• "Koj puas tau sim cov zaub mov tshiab no?"
• "Yog, ua haujlwm tawm qhov rog / pob tw / ncej puab / plab!"
• "Koj yuav tsum tau pib nrog taug kev ntawm lub treadmill."
• "Kuv paub tseeb tias koj xav li cas, kuv tau txais kev txaj muag."
• "Whale." "Fatty." "Hideous." "Tso rau tib neeg."
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Peb pom rog shaming txhua qhov chaw-los ntawm cov xov xwm tshaj tawm uas muaj cov duab ntawm "headless fatties" rau cov kws kho mob kev ntxub ntxaug rau cov neeg mob hnyav rau ib pab pawg hu ua Overweight Haters Ltd., uas muab cov ntawv thuam rau cov neeg uas lawv pom tias loj dhau. (Yog, qhov ntawd tshwm sim tiag tiag.)

Tom qab ntawd muaj qhov hloov maj mam me ntsis rau cov neeg loj dua: qhov kev saib tsis taus, kev hu lub npe, tsis muaj dab tsi ntxim hlub hauv qhov ntau thiab tsawg. Nws yog kev lim hiam, demoralizing, thiab nws tsis pab: Kev tshawb fawb qhia tias kev txaj muag neeg tsis "txhawb" lawv kom poob phaus-thiab tej zaum yuav muaj qhov cuam tshuam. (Fat Shaming tuaj yeem ua rau koj lub cev puas tsuaj.)

Peb tsis yog kiv cua ntawm txaj muag, nyob rau hauv ib qho ntawm nws cov ntaub ntawv. Thiab ib qho chaw uas yuav tsum yog qhov chaw txiav txim tsis pub dawb? Lub gym. Txawm li cas los xij ntau tus poj niam zam lub gym vim lawv txhawj xeeb tias lawv yuav tsis haum lossis lawv ntshai lawv yuav lom zem.

Txhawm rau pab ua kom lub chaw ua si muaj chaw nyab xeeb rau txhua lub cev, peb thov kom cov neeg nyeem qhia cov lus pom uas lawv tau txais los ntawm lwm tus neeg ncaws pob uas tau ua rau lawv zoo li tsis zoo.

"Koj zoo siab heev!"

Thaum qhov no yuav zoo li tsis pub dawb rau ntawm qhov chaw-leej twg tsis xav txhawb lwm tus?-Qhov cuam tshuam cuam tshuam yog tias tus neeg tau ua qee yam tsis txawv lossis zoo tshaj. Thiab ua hauj lwm tawm thaum rog dhau yuav tsum tsis yog. Nws tseem phem dua thaum nqe lus no tau ua raws nrog 'qhov laj thawj' uas cuam tshuam rau tus neeg lub cev. Peb tus piv txwv Jessie Ford, 31, los ntawm Denver, CO; Emily Erikson, 34, ntawm Seattle, WA; thiab Fernanda Espinosa, 22, los ntawm New York, NY, tau muab rau peb: "Vim tias koj tsis quav ntsej tias txhua tus neeg saib koj" (lawv yog?); "vim tias koj pheej tuaj txhua hnub txawm tias koj tsis poob phaus" (tej zaum poob ceeb thawj tsis yog lub hom phiaj!); los yog "vim koj ceeb toom kuv vim li cas kuv yuav tsum tau ua hauj lwm tawm" (shut. Up. Tam sim no.).

"Kuv ntshai kawg li koj."

Tsis muaj leej twg xav kom raug kho zoo li zaj dab neeg ceeb toom. Nova Larson, 38, ntawm Burnsville, MN, qhia txog yuav ua li cas tus ntxhais kawm ntawv qib siab tuaj txog nws thaum nws tab tom nqa qhov hnyav thiab hais rau nws tias "Kuv ntshai saib zoo li koj, tsis ua txhaum." Um, qhov ntawd yog lub ntsiab lus ntawm kev ua phem. Thiab tsuas yog txhais tau tias.

"Huag, tsis muaj leej twg xav pom qhov ntawd! Koj yuav tsum tsis txhob hnav qhov ntawd."

Activewear tuaj yeem ua kom yuam kev rau ib tug ntxhais ntawm txhua qhov loj los taug kev. Qhia cov tawv nqaij ntau dhau thiab koj tuaj yeem hu ua slut; hnav khaub ncaws nyob rau hauv lub hnab tees thiab koj dag. Tab sis cov poj niam loj dua muaj kev cia siab ntau dua los tawm tsam nrog. "Kuv tau hais kom hnav khaub ncaws ua haujlwm tsis tshua pom vim tias kuv qhov loj me tau ua rau tib neeg tawm," Ame'Karoly, 26, los ntawm Hattiesburg, MA, hais. Leah Kinney, 32, ntawm Minneapolis, MN, hais ntxiv tias ib tus neeg txawv ntawm lub chaw dhia ua si tau hais kom nws pov nws lub cev uas nyiam tshaj plaws los puag vim tias tsuas yog me me yuag tuaj yeem ua spandex. "Um, cov ris hauv qab qoj ib ce nruj vim li cas!" Kinney hais tias. Cov kab hauv qab: Txhua tus neeg yuav tsum muaj peev xwm hnav dab tsi uas lawv xav tias ua tau zoo tshaj plaws hauv-tsis muaj kev txhawj xeeb txog cov lus tawm tswv yim. (Psst ... Tshawb xyuas cov Cov Khaub Ncaws Ncaws Pob Uas Ua Cov Khaub Ncaws Ntxiv Loj Zoo.)

"Koj puas tau sim cov zaub mov tshiab no?"

Cov lus qhia txog kev noj zaub mov tsis zoo ib txwm yog lub tswv yim tsis zoo-tab sis nws tshwj xeeb yog kev thuam rau poj niam loj dua, leej twg tuaj yeem ua tau los tsis tau yuav ua kom poob ceeb thawj. Txawm li cas los xij, yam lawv noj tsis yog koj li lag luam. Karoly hais tias "Kuv tau txais cov kev npaj noj zaub mov tsis tau caw thiab cov lus qhia ua haujlwm tau ua rau kuv lub ntsej muag ntau zaus uas kuv poob suav," Karoly hais ntxiv tias nws tau txais qhov phem heev uas tsuas yog taug kev mus rau hauv lub gym tuaj yeem ua rau muaj kev ntxhov siab.

"Yog, ua haujlwm tawm qhov rog / pob tw / ncej puab / plab!"

Qhia tawm rau lwm tus neeg qhov ua tsis zoo rau lawv yog tsis tsim txiaj thiab kuj tsis txhawb siab heev. Kris Olson, 47, los ntawm Cleveland, OH, hais tias tus kws qhia tig ib zaug hais rau nws tom qab ua haujlwm hnyav, "Pom koj tag kis yog li koj tuaj yeem tshem tawm lub nroog rog rog ntawd." Tsis tsuas yog nws tshwm sim nyiam nws lub nroog Yeiuxalees, ua tsaug ntau, tab sis tsis yog txhua tus xav kom zoo li tus qauv Victoria's Secret. Thiab es tsis txhob txhawb cov poj niam siv kev tawm dag zog los kho lawv "qhov teeb meem," peb yuav tsum siv zog los qhia txhua tus lawv lub zog!

"Koj yuav tsum tau pib nrog taug kev ntawm lub treadmill."

Tseeb, cov poj niam loj dua taug kev. Lawv kuj kickbox, Zumba, ua CrossFit, powerlift, khiav, ua yoga, thiab ua zoo nkauj npaum li cas txhua hom kev tawm dag zog koj tuaj yeem xav txog. Larson, lub hnub qub ntawm nws pab pawg sib tw nrawm, taw qhia nws qhov loj me yog qhov muaj txiaj ntsig hauv nws kev ncaws pob. (Nrhiav vim li cas lwm tus poj niam hais tias, "Kuv yog 200 phaus thiab Fitter dua puas tau.")

"Kuv paub tseeb tias koj xav li cas, kuv tau txais kev txaj muag."

Kev yuag yuag tsis yog lawm. Yog li txaj muag poj niam rau ib qho laj thawj raws li nws qhov tsos. "Kuv nkag siab thaum cov phooj ywg yws txog qhov tau txais cov lus hais tias tawv nqaij tawv, tab sis qhov tseeb yog, nyias yog qhov pom zoo nkauj thiab koj tsis tuaj yeem tsis quav ntsej txog txoj cai uas los nrog qhov ntawd. Cov neeg yuav saib koj zoo li lawv khib, tab sis koj tsis tau txais kev ntxub ib yam peb ua, ib hnub dhau ib hnub, "Laura Aronson, 26, los ntawm New York, NY, piav qhia. Kev tawm tsam yog tiag tiag ntawm ob sab. Hloov chaw ntawm kev sib piv koj cov kev tawm tsam rau lwm tus, tsuas yog sim mloog lawv cov kev xav.

"Whale." "Fatty." "Hideous." "Tso rau tib neeg."

Peb txaus ntshai heev uas tau hnov ​​​​peb cov poj niam tau raug hu ua cov npe, suav nrog cov no, ntawm lub gym-qee zaum rau lawv lub ntsej muag, tab sis ntau zaus hauv cov lus tsis txaus siab lossis hnov ​​​​lus sib tham. Toree Auguston, 32, los ntawm Princeton, MN, nco ntsoov tias ib pab pawg neeg ncaws pob tau hais rau nws tias, "Koj saib zoo nyob deb tab sis koj nyob deb ntawm qhov zoo," ntxiv tias cov lus tseem ua rau nws xav quaj. Quine Quimby, 31, ntawm Newburyport, MA, nco txog ib pab tub ntxhais hluas qw rau nws tias, "Ua kom khiav rog me ntsis, yuav tsum tau khiav ib xyoos kom tshem tau tus ncej puab!" Tus cwj pwm-ntxhais-tus cwj pwm no feem ntau tsis meej pem. (Tsis tas li ntawd xwb: taw thiab luag, ntsia, lossis nrov nrov.)

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