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Xav qhia koj txoj kev hlub rau koj S.O. Nug tawm qhov kev nyiam romantic thawj zaug? Tsis txhob nqa lub xov tooj-tshwj xeeb tshaj yog tias koj paub tias koj yuav tau tso ib lub suab; qhib Gmail xwb.

Hauv ib daim ntawv tshiab hu ua "To Email or Not to Email," cov kws tshawb fawb tau txiav txim siab tias-txawm tias qhov kev nkag siab tias email yog qhov txias, kev lag luam zoo li nruab nrab tsis haum rau qhia kev xav-koj yuav tsum qhov tseeb email! Lawv cov kev tshawb fawb pom tias sau email yog qhov tseeb ntau muaj txiaj ntsig thaum nws los txog rau kev qhia txog kev nyiam romantic tshaj li tawm hauv lub suab, raws li daim ntawv, uas tau lees paub rau kev tshaj tawm hauv phau ntawv journal Khoos phis tawj hauv Tib Neeg Tus Cwj Pwm.

Hauv txoj kev tshawb fawb, 72 tus tub ntxhais kawm ntawv kawm tiav tau thov kom sau email zoo nkauj thiab tawm suab lus zoo nkauj rau lawv tus txij nkawm, tus hluas nkauj, lossis tus hluas nraug. (Yog tias lawv tsis muaj ib tus, lawv tau hais kom sau ib daim ntawv nug ib tus neeg uas lawv nyiam tawm rau hnub tim.) Cov kws tshawb fawb tau sim seb lawv ua li cas rau lub cev-lawv lub cev tau ntsib kev xav li cas-los ntawm kev tso daim tawv nqaij rau ntawm lawv ntsej muag txhawm rau ntsuas cov leeg nqaij cuam tshuam nrog kev xav zoo thiab tsis zoo, thiab ntawm lawv txhais taw txhawm rau ntsuas ntau npaum li cas cov neeg koom tau tawm hws (qhov ntsuas ntawm kev npau taws). Lawv kuj tau siv cov cuab yeej software los txheeb xyuas qhov kev xav ntawm lub siab xav li cas cov lus tiag tiag uas cov neeg xa khoom siv hauv lawv cov lus.

Cov kws tshawb fawb pom tias thaum cov neeg koom nrog tawm suab lossis xa email, tsis muaj qhov txawv ntawm qhov zoo lossis qhov tsis zoo. Txawm li cas los xij thaum nws los txog rau kev npau taws, tib neeg tau txais txoj hauv kev zoo siab xa email ntau dua thaum lawv tau tawm suab. Thiab hais txog cov ntsiab lus tseeb ntawm cov lus sib hlub, xa email ua rau muaj zog thiab xav ntau yam lus dua li tawm suab. (Thiab, xav tsis thoob, tsis muaj qhov sib txawv ntawm qhov kev xav ntawm cov uas twb muaj kev sib raug zoo thiab cov neeg nug ib tus neeg tawm thawj zaug.) Interestingly, cov kws tshawb fawb pom tias txawm tias thaum lawv nug cov tub ntxhais kawm ntawv los sau cov lus siv ntau dua, cov lus qhia ua haujlwm. -piv txwv li, hais txog qib lossis ib chav tsev-cov emails muaj ntau cov ntsiab lus ntawm kev xav thiab tseem muaj kev xav ntau dua li kev xa xov.

"Qhov no tsis yog qhov peb xav tau txhua qhov. Peb cia siab tias kev siv email yuav tsis muaj kev hlub ntau dua li lub suab xa ntawv, tab sis lub cev tau txais kev zoo siab ntau dua thaum xa email piv rau tawm hauv lub suab," hais tias tus kws tshawb fawb Alan Dennis, Ph.D. ntawm Indiana University's Kelley School of Business.

Vim li cas qhov no yuav yog? Cov kws tshawb fawb kwv yees tias txij li peb paub email tsis tshua muaj kev xav thiab peb tsis tuaj yeem nthuav tawm cov lus sib txawv los ntawm peb lub suab nrov, peb them nyiaj-txawm yog qhov tsis nco qab lossis tsis nco qab-los ntawm kev ntxiv cov ntsiab lus zoo dua thiab los ntawm kev qhia meej ntxiv, Dennis piav qhia.

Tau kawg, muaj lwm yam uas tseem tuaj yeem ua si. Thaum sau email, nws yooj yim los kho qhov koj hais, tso cai rau koj los tsim cov lus tseeb uas koj xav tau, tsis zoo li yuav tsum tau txais nws yog thawj zaug sim hla lub suab (vim tias leej twg xav rov sau dua?!). Tsis tas li ntawd, cov neeg koom nrog kev kawm yog hnub nyoog kawm ntawv qib siab, tau loj hlob hauv ib puag ncig digital, thiab xav tias zoo nkauj zoo nkauj nrog kev siv email thiab kev xa ntawv los qhia kev xav. Yog li thaum lub suab xa ntawv tuaj yeem xav tias yog ntau yam 'ntuj' ntawm kev tshaj xov xwm los ntawm kev xav txog biology (txij li nws tau nyob ze rau kev sib tham tim ntsej tim muag), nws yuav tsis zoo li qub rau ntau txhiab xyoo xws li rau ib tus neeg ntawm cov neeg laus dua- ib yam dab tsi uas koj tuaj yeem paub meej tsuas yog los ntawm kev saib cov xov tooj ntawm lub suab hauv koj lub xov tooj los ntawm koj niam. (Hlub koj, niam!)

Yog hais tias koj nyob nraum wondering txog cov nyhuv ntawm lub tus txais ntawm cov lus hais, koj yuav tsum tau tos rau ib qho kev kawm cais, tsis tau-rau-tau-tshaj tawm, tab sis nws ua rau kev txiav txim siab tias cov lus qhia meej ntxiv uas ua rau muaj kev xav ntau ntxiv rau tus neeg xa khoom yuav muaj txiaj ntsig zoo rau lwm qhov kawg thiab. -thiab tshwj xeeb tshaj yog tias nws yog txiv neej ntawm qhov kawg, Dennis taw qhia.

"Muaj lwm yam kev tshawb fawb uas qhia tias cov txiv neej nyiam tsis tuaj yeem mloog cov suab lus ntau npaum li poj niam; lawv tau mloog ntau dua rau qhov tau hais meej. Yog li yog tias koj tab tom sim tshaj tawm cov lus romantic rau txiv neej, lawv muaj feem ntau dua. kom 'tau txais' dhau email, "nws hais. Yog, peb thib ob ntawd!

Cov lus nug pom tom ntej: Dab tsi txog kev xa xov? Thaum cov kws tshawb fawb tsis tau kawm nws ntawm no tshwj xeeb, nws yog "qhov kev txiav txim siab" uas nws tseem yuav cuam tshuam rau lub suab, Dennis hais tias, vim nws tso cai rau ntau yam zoo ib yam li email. (Ntawm daim ntawv ntawd, saib 10 Cov Lus Qhia thiab Kev Sib Tham Hauv Online rau Tech-Savvy Singles.)

Tau kawg, tag nrho cov no tsis yog kom txo nqi ntawm kev sib tham tim ntsej tim muag lossis tham hauv xov tooj, tab sis nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb ceeb toom tias qhov nruab nrab peb xaiv tau hloov qhov peb hais. Vam tias, qhov kev tshawb fawb no yuav pab peb rov qab thiab rov xav txog txhua yam ntawm 'email txoj cai' uas peb tau qhia, thiab, nrog rau kev muaj hmoo (kom deb li peb txhawj xeeb tsawg kawg!), Nws yuav tso tus ntsia thawv zaum kawg. nyob rau hauv lub hleb rau dreaded voicemail.

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