Qhov laj thawj Kev Tshawb Fawb Koj ntxub Valentine Hnub

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• Neurochemicals hauv koj lub hlwb
• Koj Cov Lus Teb Rau Txhua Yam Uas Muaj Tshaj Tawm
• Heev ~ Tiag ~ Mob los ntawm Lub Plawv Tuag
• Ntsuam xyuas rau

Nws yog lub sijhawm ntawm xyoo-txhua yam, los ntawm balloons mus rau txiv laum huab xeeb khob, zoo li lub plawv. Hnub Valentine yuav los ze. Thiab txawm tias hnub so ua rau qee yam tib neeg ua npuas nrog kev xyiv fab zoo li dej hauv lub plawv zoo li lub dab da dej, lwm tus ua rau thaum lawv pom Lub Ob Hlis 14 ntawm daim ntawv qhia hnub. Muaj feem yuav yog tias koj nyem rau ntawm zaj dab neeg no, koj nyob hauv pawg tom kawg.

Koj tsis nyob ib leeg. Ib Cov neeg tseem ceeb txhua hnub kev tshawb fawb ntawm 415 txhiab xyoo pom tias 28 feem pua ​​ntawm cov poj niam thiab 35 feem pua ​​ntawm cov txiv neej xav tias tsis txaus ntseeg rau Hnub Valentine.

Muaj ntau yam laj thawj uas peb nyiam ntxub Lub Ob Hlis 14, piav qhia Laurie Essig, Ph.D., tus kws tshaj lij txog kev noj qab haus huv ntawm Middlebury College thiab tus sau ntawm Kev Hlub, Inc: Dating Apps, Tshoob Tshoob Dawb Dawb, thiab Taug Kev Zoo Siab Neverafter.

Tseeb, kev lag luam yog ib feem ntawm nws.Tab sis thaum tib neeg xav tsis zoo txog Hnub Valentine, feem ntau nws yog vim muaj kev cia siab nyob rau hnub tau teev tseg-ob qho tib si rau cov uas nyob ib leeg thiab tos tus txiv neej lossis tus ntxhais ntawm lawv txoj kev npau suav tuaj nrog thiab rau cov uas muaj kev sib raug zoo, ib yam nkaus. "Txawm tias koj tau ntsib 'ib tus,' koj tseem yuav tsum tau nrog cov cua daj cua dub thiab qhov tseeb hnyav hauv ntiaj teb," sys Essig. "Hnub Valentine yog qhov kev cog lus tsis zoo txhua xyoo, thiab peb ib txhia xav tias tsis txaus siab los ntawm nws."

Qhov kev tsis txaus siab no tuaj yeem piav qhia, ib feem, los ntawm kev tshawb fawb. Yog, muaj qee qhov * raug cai * yog vim li cas rau kev tsis nyiam Valentine hnub ntxiv rau tsuas yog ua rau tawv ncauj lossis jaded. Ntawm no, peb rhuav tshem qee qhov laj thawj-thiab muab cov kev daws teeb meem rau kev kov yeej lub laj thawj tom qab vim li cas koj npau taws ntawm kev xav ntawm kev hlub thaum lub sijhawm xyoo no.

Neurochemicals hauv koj lub hlwb

Oxytocin yog qhov hu ua hormone hormone, thiab nws tau tsim tawm feem ntau hauv hypothalamus. Cov tshuaj neurochemical khi rau cov neurons hauv lub hlwb thiab pab txhawb kev sib raug zoo, kev sib txuas lus, thiab kev xav.

Cov kws tshawb fawb tau pom tias ntau npaum li cas oxytocin txhua tus neeg tso tawm yog khi rau cov poj niam-poj niam zoo li tso oxytocin ntau dua li txiv neej, piav qhia Paul Zak, Ph.D., tus kws paub txog nyiaj txiag kev lag luam ntawm Claremont Kawm Tiav University hauv California. Qhov no yog ib feem vim tias testosterone inhibits oxytocin tso tawm, tsim "hom dominance" es tsis yog "hom kev txuas."

Muaj ntau npaum li cas ntawm "kev hlub tshuaj" tso tawm kuj tseem cuam tshuam rau koj tus kheej-cov neeg uas pom zoo dua thiab muaj kev cia siab tso oxytocin ntau, Zak piav qhia. Tab sis qhov no tseem tuaj yeem hloov pauv txhua hnub, nyob ntawm koj qhov kev xav thiab lwm yam sab nraud. "Muaj cov neeg uas tsis tso oxytocin ntau npaum li cas tom qab muaj kev sib raug zoo hauv zej zog, hais tias khawm lossis qhuas," nws piav qhia. "Cov neeg no tuaj yeem muaj hnub phem heev. Kev ntxhov siab cuam tshuam lub hlwb los ntawm kev tsim cov oxytocin ntau, los ntawm qib cellular," nws piav qhia. "Yog lawm, qee tus neeg tsuas yog tsis muaj peev xwm txaus siab rau V-Day, ib feem, vim qhov no."

Tab sis qhov ntawd tsis tau txhais hais tias cov neeg no tsis tuaj yeem ua yam los sim nce oxytocin hauv lub hlwb.

Yuav ua li cas: Zak hais tias yog tias koj tab tom nrhiav hloov koj tus cwj pwm txog hnub so, txoj hauv kev zoo tshaj plaws kom hnov ​​kev hlub (thiab oxytocin) yog muab rau koj tus khub (yog tias koj muaj kev sib raug zoo), niam txiv, tsiaj, lossis phooj ywg. Koj tau txais yam koj muab thaum nws los txog rau cov tshuaj hormones. "Nws nyuaj heev rau tib neeg kom nce lawv tus kheej oxytocin, tab sis lawv tuaj yeem muab qhov khoom plig ntawd. Yog tias koj muab cov neeg nyob ib puag ncig koj hlub thiab saib xyuas, nws txhawb lawv kom muab ib yam rau koj," Zak hais.

Muaj lwm txoj hauv kev tshawb fawb los hloov txoj hauv kev uas koj cov tshuaj neurochemicals khi rau koj lub paj hlwb kom tsim cov oxytocin ntau dua, zoo li "rov kho lub paj hlwb," Zak hais. "Koj tuaj yeem zaum hauv lub dab dej kub kom so kom sov (sov sov ua rau oxytocin), ua tib zoo xav, taug kev nrog ib tus neeg, lossis ua qee yam zoo siab thiab txaus ntshai nrog tus khub kom tshem tawm kev ntxhov siab thiab txhawb nqa oxytocin: Caij cov menyuam coaster! caij helicopter!" Los yog sim ib qho kev tawm dag zog tshiab nrog koj lwm tus tseem ceeb. (Cov txiaj ntsig kev sib deev tom qab ua haujlwm tsim nyog nws.)

Txawm hais tias koj nyob ib leeg, sim ua tej yam no nrog phooj ywg thiab tsev neeg tuaj yeem pab ua kom koj cov oxytocin nce thiab koj qhov kev ntxhov siab (thiab tej zaum koj li V-Hnub ntxub).

Koj Cov Lus Teb Rau Txhua Yam Uas Muaj Tshaj Tawm

Lub sijhawm no ntawm lub xyoo zoo li ua rau PDA thiab ua rau Facebook thiab Instagram tshaj tawm. Tus cwj pwm zoo li no tuaj yeem ua rau V-Hnub cynics, thiab ib qho kev kawm hauv Northwestern University yuav taw qhia tias yog vim li cas.

Kev tshawb fawb los ntawm Northwestern pom tias cov tib neeg uas tau sib tham ntau txog lawv txoj kev sib raug zoo hauv Facebook tsis nyiam. Oversharing txhais tau ntau dua li tsuas yog qhia cov duab ib ntus nrog koj tus hlub-nws yog qib siab dua ntawm kev nthuav tawm zoo li, hais, ua si-los-ua si ntawm koj hnub Valentine Hnub hmo ntuj. (FYI, ntawm no yog tsib txoj kev xav tsis thoob uas social media tuaj yeem pab koj kev sib raug zoo.)

Thiab, tsis muaj. Nws tsis yog curmudgeon nkaus xwb cov neeg uas frown ntawm tus cwj pwm no-tsis muaj leej twg nyiam nws.

"Peb tsis pom qhov sib txawv ntawm cov neeg paub txog uas yog ib leeg thiab cov uas nyob hauv kev sib raug zoo raws li lawv nyiam ntau npaum li cas tib neeg sib koom cov ntaub ntawv kev sib raug zoo," hais tias txoj kev tshawb fawb tus kws sau ntawv, Lydia Emery. "Nws tsis zoo li hais txog ib leeg tib neeg xav tias khib siab lossis tsis txaus siab-nws zoo li txhua tus tsis nyiam sib koom ntau."

Yuav ua li cas: Thaum koj tsis tuaj yeem zam dhau cov khub niam txiv ntawm txoj kev lossis tus hluas nraug uas muaj peev xwm nqa tau tus menyuam roj hmab loj heev mus rau hauv txoj kev tsheb ciav hlau, muaj cov kauj ruam uas koj tuaj yeem ua kom tso tsawg dua ntawm qhov no hauv koj lub neej.

Ua social media detox rau lub hlis Lub Ob Hlis. Ua li ntawd yuav ua rau koj muaj kev zoo siab nyob ib puag ncig hnub so no-kev tshawb fawb los ntawm cov kws tshawb fawb ntawm Tsev Kawm Qib Siab New York thiab Stanford University tau pom tias kev tsis ua haujlwm Facebook plaub plaub lub lis piam ua rau tib neeg tshaj tawm qee qhov kev txhim kho hauv lawv qib kev zoo siab. Yog tias qhov ntawd suab tsis txaus, sim txwv koj tus kheej mus rau 10 feeb ntawm Instagram browsing txhua hnub. (Muaj lwm yam txiaj ntsig los txwv koj lub sijhawm tshuaj ntsuam ib yam nkaus.)

Heev ~ Tiag ~ Mob los ntawm Lub Plawv Tuag

Okay-ntawm no yog tus koj tau tos. Kev tawg ntawm kev lag luam liab thiab paj yeeb nyob txhua qhov chaw koj tig tuaj yeem ua rau muaj kev xav txog kev hlub hauv koj lub neej. Yog tias koj tab tom cuam tshuam nrog kev sib cais lossis tsis tau txais kev hlub, hnub so tuaj yeem ua rau mob. Yog, mob tiag tiag.

Zak hais tias "Peb lub hlwb tsis muab txoj hauv kev yooj yim rau peb kom khiav tawm ntawm qhov kev tsis sib haum xeeb lossis kev sib cais peb xav tias thaum ib tus neeg tsis sib haum xeeb," Zak hais. "Thiab qhov kev xav ntawm kev sib cais thiab kev tsis sib haum xeeb tau ua tiav tib yam hauv lub hlwb raws li kev mob lub cev tau ua tiav, los ntawm peb qhov mob matrix."

Hauv lwm lo lus, kev hlub ua rau raug mob, thiab Valentine hnub tuaj yeem yog qhov tsis nco-qhov hloov pauv ntawm qhov no.

Yuav ua li cas: Zak hais tias yog ib txoj hauv kev zoo tshaj los kho qhov mob no rov los rau oxytocin. Nws hais tias "Oxytocin yog tshuaj tua kab mob," nws hais. "Muaj ntau cov kev tshawb fawb qhia tias nws txo qhov mob los ntawm kev txo qis hauv qhov mob matrix."

Yog tias koj nyob ib leeg, nce koj qib los ntawm, hais, muaj Galentine's Day tog tuaj yeem pab ua rau koj qhov kev xav tsis zoo rau hnub so thiab nce qib oxytocin. Zak hais tias, "Nws yog qhov ntse tshaj plaws kom muaj kev lom zem thiab tawm mus nrog koj cov phooj ywg," Zak hais. "Tom qab ntawd rov qab mus rau daim duab teeb duab rau lwm xyoo. Tib neeg yuav tsum tsis txhob tso tseg [ntawm kev nrhiav kev hlub]."

Ntsuam xyuas rau