Lindsey & Tsov: Vim Li Cas Cov Poj Niam Muaj Hnub Nyoog Tsis Muaj Txiv Neej

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Koj yuav xav tias 27 tus poj niam sib npaug 27 tus chij liab-zoo li cov alpine caij ski racer Lindsey Vonn kws txawj dodges ntawm lub loj loj slalom-kom nyob deb, deb ntawm Tiger Woods. Hloov chaw 28-xyoo-laus Vonn tau xaiv tsis quav ntsej qhov kev txaj muag thiab cuam tshuam loj heev, suav nrog ib qho hais txog nws yuav ua li cas zoo li 37-xyoo-laus tus pojniam plaub hau daj, Elin Nordegren.

Tsis tau hais tias tsis muaj qhov thib ob lossis kev txhiv dim tag nrho, tab sis ntawm cov xov xwm no thiab tus neeg hu nkauj Rihanna tau rov qab ua ke nrog rapper Chris Brown, uas tau ua phem rau nws hauv 2009, peb pab tsis tau tab sis xav tsis thoob: Dab tsi yog qhov muaj zog. cov poj niam tau ntxias los ntawm cov txiv neej scummy?

"Yog vim li cas cov poj niam zoo li tau nyam nrog cov neeg nyiam hais lus phem, zoo li Tiger Woods thiab Chris Browns ntawm lub ntiaj teb, vim tias lawv ntes lawv ntawm cov hnub zoo tiag tiag," hais tias Ramani Durvasula, Ph.D., LA-based ntawv tso cai soj ntsuam kev puas siab puas ntsws thiab sau phau ntawv tshiab Koj Yog Vim Li Cas Koj Noj. "Vim tias cov txiv neej no feem ntau ua tiav zoo, lawv tuaj yeem kho koj zoo heev, thiab qhov no yog li cas koj thiaj pom koj tus kheej tam sim ntawd nrog ib tus neeg uas tsis yog neeg vwm."

Ib zaug nyob rau hauv nws spell, tib cov poj niam no feem ntau yuav ua yuam kev latent tus cwj pwm phem-xws li kev nruj kev tsiv, kev hais lus phem, thiab kev tsis ncaj ncees-rau kev mob siab rau. "Nws yog cov kab nuv ntses qub thiab hloov pauv," Durvasula hais. "Thaum cov txiv neej no nyob, lawv nyob, tab sis thaum lawv tawm, tsis nco qab txog nws."

Dab ntxwg nyoog cov neeg tawm tswv yim yuav sib cav tias Woods thiab Vonn yog ib khub zoo meej. Esquire Tus kws sau ntawv Chris Jones txawm tweeted tias lawv yog "kev sib tw ua nyob rau hauv cov lus hais saum ntuj ceeb tsheej." (Ntoo tau pom zoo los ntawm Nike, nws cov lus hais tias "Tsuas yog ua," thaum Vonn nyob nrog Under Armour, uas siv "Kuv yuav.") , tus kheej-centered championship daim ntaub.

Durvasula hais tias "Ntau tus neeg ncaws pob tseem ceeb yuav tsum yog neeg quav yeeb quav tshuaj txhawm rau txhawm rau txhawm rau tiv thaiv qhov uas tau txiav txim los ntawm ntau tus neeg kom ua tsis tau neeg," "Ntau zaus, narcissists ua cov koom tes zoo rau ib leeg vim lawv ua si tib yam kev ua si, yog li tsis muaj leej twg xav tias lawv ploj lawm." Thaum nws los txog rau celebs, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog, kev tshaj tawm yog kev tshaj tawm zoo, yog li nws yeej-yeej rau ob tog, nws ntxiv. Qhov tseeb, raws li ob peb lub hwj chim, ua ke tsuas yog ntxiv rau lawv qhov zoo heev (tej zaum qhov nyiam Kim Kardashian rau Kanye West), uas ua rau kev sib raug zoo dua. Qhov no yog vim li cas cov hnub qub ua yeeb yaj kiab sib tham nrog lwm cov hnub qub.

Vim tias nws yooj yim rau poob rau luag-yuav luag txhua tus ntawm peb ua ntawm qee qhov taw tes-ntawm no yog peb lub cim Durvasula qhia saib xyuas kom tsis txhob raug ntxias los ntawm tus swb:

1. Koj Nyob Hauv Nws Lub Ntiaj Teb

Koj nyob ob peb hlis thiab nws tseem tsis tau ntsib koj cov phooj ywg, tab sis koj pom nws cov phooj ywg txhua lub sijhawm. Koj zoo li ib txwm noj ntawm nws cov khw noj mov nyiam. Thiab thaum koj pib tham txog hnub nyuaj ntawm kev ua haujlwm, nws zoo li tsis koom nrog. Durvasula hais tias "Ua tib zoo saib xyuas cov no vim tias nws qhia tias koj tsis txaus siab rau koj thiab tsis muaj kev sib txuas," "Muaj ntau tus neeg yuam kev tias nws tsuas yog xav kom koj los ua ib feem ntawm nws lub ntiaj teb, tab sis qhov no yuav yog qhov teeb meem nyob rau lub sijhawm ntev."

Hlub Nws lossis tso Nws? Nws hais tias "Kev sib txuas lus ntxov, yam tsis tau hloov mus ua ib qho kev sib tw, uas koj xav kom nws paub koj cov phooj ywg thiab sim koj cov zaub mov nyiam hauv koj lub nroog," nws hais. "Yog tias coj nws tsis ua rau nws hloov pauv me ntsis, qhov ntawd yog koj qhov kev hu xov tooj."

2. Koj Xav Hloov Nws

Kev npau suav rau poj niam feem ntau yog "Kuv xav cawm nws" thiab "Kuv yuav yog nws tus ntxhais huab tais," Durvasula hais. "Lawv tau txais nws hauv lawv lub taub hau tias lawv tuaj yeem pab cov txiv neej hloov pauv kom zoo dua, tab sis koj puas xav nrog ib tus neeg uas xav tau kev cawm seej tiag tiag?"

Hlub Nws lossis tso Nws? "Xav txog kev kho yog tias kev sib raug zoo no txhais tau tias ntau rau koj, tab sis lwm yam, ua rau lub ntuj raug txim tawm ntawm kev zam," nws qhia. "Tib neeg tuaj yeem hloov pauv mus rau ib kis tab sis tsis ntau npaum li koj xav."

3. Koj Xav Zoo Li Lub Hauv Paus

Nws yog ib yam yog tias nws tuaj lig rau hmo noj mov vim tias nws tau nyam hauv kev tsheb, tab sis nws yog lwm qhov yog tias nws tau qeeb qeeb tas li lossis tshuab tawm koj cov phiaj xwm tag nrho yam tsis tau muab koj taub hau. Qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws yog tias koj yuav tsis ua qhov no rau nws - koj tuaj yeem tshwm sim rau tag nrho nws cov xwm txheej, ib txwm nyob rau lub sijhawm.

Hlub Nws lossis Tso Nws? Yog tias koj mob siab txog kev sib raug zoo no, koj yuav tsum hais ib yam zoo li, 'Kuv tsis xis nyob nrog qhov tseeb tias koj ib txwm tuaj lig,' "Durvasula hais. thiab qhia rau nws tias nws mob heev.

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